I agree with tempered_sugar, it doesn't have to be a solid relationship with each person well defined into what 'has to happen'. What you are doing, has to be what you want to be doing, otherwise it won't work, and no one will be happy. A lot of what you read online segments everyone into groups. This person likes this, therefore they have to do that all the time to be happy, is a mentality that doesn't work, especially while you are still exploring what you like in the first place.
Having said that, I think that the best advise is to live in the moment. Discus how you are feeling at the time you are feeling it, and make sure that you both have a sense of what the other wants/needs. Play, have fun, and enjoy yourselves. Find your own rhythm of what works, and try not to worry about what others are doing.
Good Luck!