Hello everyone! Long time no post. I just wanted to put up a list to help ladies new to femdom to prevent a lot of problems. I have learned this through research and trail and error.
1. When doing BDSM online get to know the person first, know their attention span, what they like, and what they don't like. See if the two of you are compatible.
2. Always make a contract with limits, kinks, how you will communicate, what you expect, and how rewards/punishments will be done. It gives you a frame to work from, stops complaining about uncertainty, and helps the Mistress and much as the slave.
3. Make sure the contract has a specific date for review or termination. A contract should always be reviewed because things can change over time.
4. Always make sure your computer systems are compatible. For example: don't send something to someone when they don't have the program that will enable them to see/read what you send.
5. Try to have daily communication in some form.
6. Don't be afraid or feel guilty to take charge. Believe me, the slaves want it.
7. When you meet someone in real life that you don't know for the purpose of getting experience make sure you have a meet and greet before anything.
8. Always make the slave pay for the hotel. This way you won't get stiffed.
9. Always have and respect the safe word.
10. Practice safe sex. I started researching it and there are so many things that can go wrong. If you are going to finger somebody use latex gloves. Use a condom for sex with body parts or toys. When in the case of Blow Jobs unless you extremely trust the person (and even then paperwork from the health department should be shown) use a condom. Always use waterbased lubes. Don't go ass to vagina or ass to mouth. Basic stuff.
11. Be specific and precise in your orders. Slaves can't read our minds, no matter how much easier that would make it, but wouldn't that also take the fun out of it?
12. Know that it's ok to mess up now and then and remember that the slave is there for YOUR pleasure. If things go wrong both the Mistress and the slave can work on it.
13. A BDSM session is different from a 24/7 BDSM relationship. Don't get the two mixed up. One is about getting your rocks off and the other is about love and commitment. Not to say the two can't mix but don't think that if you do a session with a random stranger it will turn into a relationship.
14. Remember to reward your slaves.
15. Know your limits and evaluate yourself from time to time.
I hope this will help. This is just a list of things I have learned in my extremely short time practicing Femdom. Most of it is common sense. If anyone has anything they would like to add feel free.
1. When doing BDSM online get to know the person first, know their attention span, what they like, and what they don't like. See if the two of you are compatible.
2. Always make a contract with limits, kinks, how you will communicate, what you expect, and how rewards/punishments will be done. It gives you a frame to work from, stops complaining about uncertainty, and helps the Mistress and much as the slave.
3. Make sure the contract has a specific date for review or termination. A contract should always be reviewed because things can change over time.
4. Always make sure your computer systems are compatible. For example: don't send something to someone when they don't have the program that will enable them to see/read what you send.
5. Try to have daily communication in some form.
6. Don't be afraid or feel guilty to take charge. Believe me, the slaves want it.
7. When you meet someone in real life that you don't know for the purpose of getting experience make sure you have a meet and greet before anything.
8. Always make the slave pay for the hotel. This way you won't get stiffed.
9. Always have and respect the safe word.
10. Practice safe sex. I started researching it and there are so many things that can go wrong. If you are going to finger somebody use latex gloves. Use a condom for sex with body parts or toys. When in the case of Blow Jobs unless you extremely trust the person (and even then paperwork from the health department should be shown) use a condom. Always use waterbased lubes. Don't go ass to vagina or ass to mouth. Basic stuff.
11. Be specific and precise in your orders. Slaves can't read our minds, no matter how much easier that would make it, but wouldn't that also take the fun out of it?
12. Know that it's ok to mess up now and then and remember that the slave is there for YOUR pleasure. If things go wrong both the Mistress and the slave can work on it.
13. A BDSM session is different from a 24/7 BDSM relationship. Don't get the two mixed up. One is about getting your rocks off and the other is about love and commitment. Not to say the two can't mix but don't think that if you do a session with a random stranger it will turn into a relationship.
14. Remember to reward your slaves.
15. Know your limits and evaluate yourself from time to time.
I hope this will help. This is just a list of things I have learned in my extremely short time practicing Femdom. Most of it is common sense. If anyone has anything they would like to add feel free.
