Sincerely this article is deep and love it l have been through all these steps . especially the sub frenzy step is where the subs need to work on , as l goddess l know how many of them l came across
My advice #1 would be: meet/hook up in your local BDSM-club with restricted memberships. Clubs tend to be (no guarantee!) quite observant of toxic/dangerous behaviour. I know it is not a scene or possibility for all, but still: if you have the option, use it - and support your local club