Confused about my femdom fetish I think?

[Throwaway4321]

Alright, I'm not even sure if this is the right forum to post this. I have searched for many forums and i can't seem to find the right one to discuss this sort of stuff so I'm going to take a long shot and post here. I made this account just to discuss this and see if other people were in similar shoes to mine. I am currently a young male in my early twenties.

Ever since I can remember I have been excited by female domination, I could say as young as primary school (first years of school, maybe even younger) I would get excited if I ever saw a woman tieing up a man on TV etc just being dominate that sort of stuff you see on TV even though I didn't really understand it. Now at the age I am, I still am turned on by a dominating women, mostly bondage, facesitting and smothering etc. I have sort of accepted that it is just me and it will never change, I'm not sure if my childhood has some sort of part to it or if i was born with it.

You know how they say gay people are born gay, is it the same in this sort of situation? because I cant even think of a time I have fantasized about being the dominate in sexual intercourse. The one thing I am afraid of is not being able to find a women who indulges in what I indulge in. The thing is no one would ever know I am sexually submissive unless I told them, I am the complete opposite of submissive in every day life.

I guess I'm just posting to hear from other people that are similar to me as I have never had the chance to discuss this with other people and I just really want to know how other people feel about it. It's the one secret only I know.
And I really am confused with whether I was born like this or not.

Thanks to anyone who actually reads this and maybe replies, and sorry to admins if this is in the wrong place. I ended up typing more then i expected.

 

[NotQuiteTamed]

You're not weird, and what you feel isn't outside the ordinary.

Also, there are kinky folks of all stripes all around us

Interestingly, there's been a fair bit of research that indicates our kinks are hardwired into us pretty early (and/or express themselves pretty early on in life), even before we recognize them as sexual, because we're sorta pre-sexual.

I seem to remember Dan Savage writing on length about this. I'll see if I can dig up the article.

BUT! Don't despair. Go out. Meet peeps. Be smitten. Be honest. Get spanked.

 

[Throwaway4321]

Hey, thank for replying I do appreciate it. I guess I have to sort of start exploring into those avenues like fetish clubs if I want to meet like minded people. If you can find some of those articles I would greatly apprecite it because I believe I was born like this to be honest. I would just like to get a better understanding about who I am.

 

[Ollygrumps]

I thought it was quite normal to want to be dominated by a woman. I love being tied up and totally helpless for someone to abuse me for their sexual pleasure. Why shouldn't it be someone of the opposite sex?

As for hard wiring kinkiness from childhood:- As a child I was forced to wear PJs in bed. I hated them and ripped them. Then it spread to ripping my day clothes. And 60 years later my big fetish is having all my clothes ripped off me. It's even better if I'm tied up. Last week I made a sign asking to be stripped in two languages. I got myself tied up where passing people would see me. After I was stripped I stayed tied up naked except for the sign hanging round my neck.

 

[Throwaway4321]

To be honest, I have been confused a lot by my sexual fantasies, but I have come to accept it i guess. Even though I accept it, it still confuses me not in a bad way but more of a curious way. I guess i found it normal too man, because ever since i was a child i have being turned on by female dominance (i didn't know that was the exact thing that turned me on), the weird thing is a lot of people say its by the way you were raised by dominant females etc, but never once in my childhood was my female role models dominant, it was always the mother or female role model that was the less strict one, which makes me wonder where did my fetish really come from.

Maybe it's just something that is genetically normal and has been around forever but males have hidden it in the past as it would have had more repercussions in the past life then it does now? and considering life was more brutal then it is today.

anyway, i think i got sidetracked there Ollygrumps, i appreciate you posting and hearing your personal experiences. that sign thing sounds pretty hectic haha, i could never do something like that! you got balls man.