After being on here for a while I finally decided to meet someone near me and ended up doing things. Was my first time doing anything and its so different. Its not easy being able to get away to do this stuff but I am glad I did.
First Experience
- Thread starter justlearning2
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Sometimes it's that first small step that you have to take to discover a new world for yourself.
Nice to see you got a chance to explore hands on. Hopefully all went well. I hope you find more times to play in person again.
Side note. If it was recent be sure you have a drop plan in place. Typically in person sessions carry heavier drops than online. Especially if you can’t be together in person afterwards.
Side note. If it was recent be sure you have a drop plan in place. Typically in person sessions carry heavier drops than online. Especially if you can’t be together in person afterwards.
Drop is what can happen after the endorphins and the floaty space high wears off. Some people get nothing. Some get just a general low feeling. Some it really hits hard and makes them feel down depressed alone etc.
snacks, drinks, aftercare, follow up messages or calls, cuddling time, reassurance and acknowledgment can all help reduce drop.
snacks, drinks, aftercare, follow up messages or calls, cuddling time, reassurance and acknowledgment can all help reduce drop.
Then I'll mention the 3 basics here: safe, healthy, consensual
safe like: that you know what you are doing, have a plan B, be aware of what can go wrong, consider the consequences of your actions
healthy like: not under the influence of alcohol and other drugs that can override your perception and sense of pain, be aware of physical limitations and risks (e.g. breath play)
also consider the emotional influences, when you are euphoric you can perceive your limits differently
but the opposite, collapsing, can also happen, which is why there is a safe word or aftercare
I shouldn't have to explain consensual, but it's clear that both should understand what they want to do and consciously agree to it
Of course you can add more information to these words, so it is only intended as initial information and is not complete
As @subzzzero has already written, aftercare is about supporting the other person physically and emotionally, feelings can be very overwhelming and it's important not to be left alone with them. For me, aftercare is also about talking about it afterwards to better understand how the person felt, what was good and what wasn't so good. Reviewing the session once again.
You can never have enough knowledge and understanding.
safe like: that you know what you are doing, have a plan B, be aware of what can go wrong, consider the consequences of your actions
healthy like: not under the influence of alcohol and other drugs that can override your perception and sense of pain, be aware of physical limitations and risks (e.g. breath play)
also consider the emotional influences, when you are euphoric you can perceive your limits differently
but the opposite, collapsing, can also happen, which is why there is a safe word or aftercare
I shouldn't have to explain consensual, but it's clear that both should understand what they want to do and consciously agree to it
Of course you can add more information to these words, so it is only intended as initial information and is not complete
As @subzzzero has already written, aftercare is about supporting the other person physically and emotionally, feelings can be very overwhelming and it's important not to be left alone with them. For me, aftercare is also about talking about it afterwards to better understand how the person felt, what was good and what wasn't so good. Reviewing the session once again.
You can never have enough knowledge and understanding.
