FLR, CFNM, SPH, ABDL, Sissy, MF, OTK, IRL, LTR, Cuck, ANR/ABF
CHAS ( -tity ) HUM ( -iliation )
I decided I’m going to use my journal to explain why I found interest in each of the acronyms that have made me an acronymboy.
One at a time … and in no particular order.
FLR (Female-Led Relationship)
All my life, I have been under the semi-control and influence of certain females. When I was young, it was family members. As I got older, it was past partners. But none of them ever actually led me, even though they could have and I would have followed. Perhaps this was because they never really saw it as leading. Or perhaps it was because I never simply brought the topic up.
So allow me to correct my past mistakes of silence right now …
Being honest, there is a level of eroticism in her picking up the power and wielding it with confidence. There is a basic need that a guy who seeks FLR has. But it’s not a cry for help. There’s no void of self that I am missing. There are simply factors that are sought, to make life all it can be … and with anticipation, more.
Handing over all control to her would logically make for a happier relationship, end arguments before they ever began and lead to a more balanced environment that she would create and keep. Stronger heartbeats would be felt, especially if she has compassion and never loses her sense of feminine grace.
But I truly wish I had the words to explain what I see as the difference between being dominant and being domineering. The latter of those two is the lesser of my interest. I’ve been in those kinds of relationships. And their not fulfilling at all, not for her or for me.
I don’t want a partner who is mean or power hungry. She would have no reason to be power hungry, if she had all the power. And if she was mean, well then, I don’t believe I would be inherently interested in her to begin with.
For as much as a control-hungry guy needs to be the King of His Castle, if she feels the right to be the Queen of Her Castle, then the relationship has no greater value or effect than any other kind. So, the greatest advocate for FLR success is and always will be her. She can embrace it and enhance its effectiveness … or she can ruin the whole thing.
But an agreement that is understood without need for constant display … oh, yes. When it gets to the point where roles are naturally understood and naturally followed, that is when FLR is at its finest - capable of being whatever she wants it to be.
Now don’t get me wrong, here. I’m not saying that I don’t want to be controlled, perhaps even forcefully controlled sometimes. But I would be much more attuned to those displays being about general maintenance, not about her skills with an implement.
I would be fine standing in the kitchen while wearing nothing but an apron as I washed the dishes by hand in the sink. And I would be doing this because she told me to. At the same time, she would be in the living room, sitting on the sofa with her feet propped up while sipping a drink I brought to her. And she would have a direct line of sight to me at all points in time during this.
That’s a scenario that would fuel a level of eroticism, especially if it began to feel like the norm.
I would be fine with folding the clean laundry to perfection, each item of clothing folded perfectly with no wrinkles or anything wrong. And if she ever found an article of clothing folded improperly, my time over her knee would be well-deserved.
(But I’ll get into OTK in the next entry.)
So the real quest is to find a female who actually wants to discuss the meaning of FLR, as opposed to wielding power she doesn’t actually have yet.
CHAS ( -tity ) HUM ( -iliation )
I decided I’m going to use my journal to explain why I found interest in each of the acronyms that have made me an acronymboy.
One at a time … and in no particular order.
FLR (Female-Led Relationship)
All my life, I have been under the semi-control and influence of certain females. When I was young, it was family members. As I got older, it was past partners. But none of them ever actually led me, even though they could have and I would have followed. Perhaps this was because they never really saw it as leading. Or perhaps it was because I never simply brought the topic up.
So allow me to correct my past mistakes of silence right now …
Being honest, there is a level of eroticism in her picking up the power and wielding it with confidence. There is a basic need that a guy who seeks FLR has. But it’s not a cry for help. There’s no void of self that I am missing. There are simply factors that are sought, to make life all it can be … and with anticipation, more.
Handing over all control to her would logically make for a happier relationship, end arguments before they ever began and lead to a more balanced environment that she would create and keep. Stronger heartbeats would be felt, especially if she has compassion and never loses her sense of feminine grace.
But I truly wish I had the words to explain what I see as the difference between being dominant and being domineering. The latter of those two is the lesser of my interest. I’ve been in those kinds of relationships. And their not fulfilling at all, not for her or for me.
I don’t want a partner who is mean or power hungry. She would have no reason to be power hungry, if she had all the power. And if she was mean, well then, I don’t believe I would be inherently interested in her to begin with.
For as much as a control-hungry guy needs to be the King of His Castle, if she feels the right to be the Queen of Her Castle, then the relationship has no greater value or effect than any other kind. So, the greatest advocate for FLR success is and always will be her. She can embrace it and enhance its effectiveness … or she can ruin the whole thing.
But an agreement that is understood without need for constant display … oh, yes. When it gets to the point where roles are naturally understood and naturally followed, that is when FLR is at its finest - capable of being whatever she wants it to be.
Now don’t get me wrong, here. I’m not saying that I don’t want to be controlled, perhaps even forcefully controlled sometimes. But I would be much more attuned to those displays being about general maintenance, not about her skills with an implement.
I would be fine standing in the kitchen while wearing nothing but an apron as I washed the dishes by hand in the sink. And I would be doing this because she told me to. At the same time, she would be in the living room, sitting on the sofa with her feet propped up while sipping a drink I brought to her. And she would have a direct line of sight to me at all points in time during this.
That’s a scenario that would fuel a level of eroticism, especially if it began to feel like the norm.
I would be fine with folding the clean laundry to perfection, each item of clothing folded perfectly with no wrinkles or anything wrong. And if she ever found an article of clothing folded improperly, my time over her knee would be well-deserved.
(But I’ll get into OTK in the next entry.)
So the real quest is to find a female who actually wants to discuss the meaning of FLR, as opposed to wielding power she doesn’t actually have yet.
