He wants to be my slave (I am new to this)

[ThreeEyedRaven]

I was on Craigslist looking for a room to rent and there was a guy offering free rent for a woman to be his slave and force him to run errands, give massages, clean, etc. I was researching some of this online and I there was a lot of warning against this. Someone even said "if you do this you are going to end up with him using your skin as a scarf". And other things to insinuate he is mentally unstable and will end up killing me if I decide to discontinue the relationship. He said he does not care if it is sexual or if I date other guys. He just wants to be my slave. I am not comfortable with living with him....but I am intrigued by the idea and want to hang out with him a few times to see what it is like. Not to sound close-minded but this does seem a bit odd to me and I am a little scared of what someone with these types of interests might be capable of.....

Any men out there who are interested in being used as slaves want to comment on this? Should I be worried?

Of course I am going to meet him in a public place first...and I don't think I am going to live with him even though he is offering a beautiful space rent free.

Do you think if I told him to leave me alone he would? Can men who are into this stuff comment on what type of mentality men like this have and if they are usually dangerous?

 

[SwitchKinkyM]

If you aren't comfortable living with him, my recommendation is to not engage with him at all.

There are plenty of websites like this one where you can meet guys and get to understand why some would want something like that. You'll also find that some of the guys here are only interested in the fantasy aspect but not necessarily living it.

Don't rush into anything and don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Are you sure he isn't actually interested in a sexual relationship?

It could be just as he says, but I would still exercise extreme caution.

 

[ThreeEyedRaven]

I told him I would meet him in a public place to see what he is about and we could go from there. I also told him I can make him do stuff for me if he wants but I will NOT live with him.

I of course am going to learn more about him first and ask him questions before I meet him. I have not given him my number.

I guess I am just wondering what is the mentality behind this kind of fantasy and if these types of men tend to end up obsessive and/or dangerous. I would think since they are submissive if you told them to go away forever they would obey?

Its odd because I once found someone else online who wanted the same things....he said he wanted me to force him to entertain guests and clean for me. I never decided to meet him. I don't even look for these types of guys but I have come across them twice.

 

[SubMissChievous]

I am not comfortable with living with him....but I am intrigued by the idea and want to hang out with him a few times to see what it is like.

I don't see why you would need to hang out with him to see what it's like if you're not interested in him. There's plenty of resource on the internet for you to read to see what it's like without letting him believe there is a chance that you might be interested.

Not to sound close-minded but this does seem a bit odd to me and I am a little scared of what someone with these types of interests might be capable of.....

Well, not to sound rude but if you are scared of people with these types of interests then I am even more confused as to why you want to hang around him... right?

I mean seriously... what exactly is odd to you? That he wants to be submissve? It's not that uncommon. That he does not care if it's sexual? Again, not that uncommon. Lots of men have cuckold fantasies. That he wants to be your slave without having even met you and to live together? Now I get that. But it has nothing to do with him being kinky. It has to do with him being unrealistic and apparently desperate.

Here's something to ponder for you: if he has not met a domme interested in him with the kind of arragement he has to offer then there has to be a reason.

Any men out there who are interested in being used as slaves want to comment on this? Should I be worried?

Submissive men aren't a hive mind. Some are very decent, stable, honest, and all-around good people. Some are manilulative assholes. Some are sociopaths. Etc. Etc.

Again I don't think it is his interest in kink you should worry the most about here.

Of course I am going to meet him in a public place first...and I don't think I am going to live with him even though he is offering a beautiful space rent free.

Then why meet? Is he aware you are not interested in living with him and about how you feel about people with these "types of interests"? Because if he does not I think you should be clear about it before even wasting his time and yours.

Do you think if I told him to leave me alone he would?

I don't know him... how would I know?

Can men who are into this stuff comment on what type of mentality men like this have and if they are usually dangerous?

Again, there is no such things as a universal submissive men mentality and they are not a hive mind.

Take the kink out of it... you are going to meet a stranger in a public place. You're an adult, I'm sure you have dated before... How could you tell if a guy was going to be dangerous or not? It's not different here, really. If you met a vanilla guy through a dating website and he offered you pretty much the same without mention of words like "slave" would you find that normal? Would you go and meet even if you don't think his offer interest you?

No offense but I'm rather confused as to why you would even go if you fear that he may turn into a psycho stalker.

 

[ThreeEyedRaven]

Thank you for your reply. But I think you are misunderstanding. I didn't say I was not interested in him. I said I would like to give the whole "slave" experience a try, I just don't want to live with him. I don't think I ever said I wasn't interested in him.

I am scared because I am new to this which is why I am on here. To be educated. Yes, it is odd to me. The exact definition of "odd" is "different from what is usual or expected. So yes, this is odd to me. Not bad, but it is certainly different. He is offering free living in a wealthy area to a stranger. I hope that answers your question.

You seem to have taken offense to me asking this question simply to be educated.

And btw, I was right on the "odd" part. I did a little digging online and he is posting this in multiple cities using multiple different names.

 

[SubMissChievous]

I don't really take offense to what you said. I'm just really confused as to why you are seemingly more concerned about his kinks or lifestyle than what he has to offer. Because if it were me I would find that odd too if someone offered something like that on the internet regardless of whether they are kinky or not.

Also another thing I forgot to mention but if you are to meet him you probably should ask is what being a slave means to him. Because there is no one way of doing this. Everyone's relationship and dynamic is different so even if you are not considering iiving with him but are still interested in him and getting to know what he's into that's probably one of the first questions you want to ask him then.

But that being said and I don't think I can empahsize this more than I already have... I think what is the most disconcerting isn't what his preferences are but why he is offering this to strangers on the internet to begin with.

 

[ThreeEyedRaven]

That is what I just said above....

I found it most confusing that he is offering a free living space to strangers....

But as I said at the end of my post: He is a fraud anyway.

 

[ThreeEyedRaven]

And I don't know what is wrong with being concerned with someone's lifestyle if you are not familiar with it and what it entails and they want YOU to be involved with it. If I wasn't involved whatever, do what you want! But I think it is reasonable to be concerned with it when you have never experienced it before and someone wants you to participate.

 

[SubMissChievous]

And I don't know what is wrong with being concerned with someone's lifestyle if you are not familiar with it and what it entails and they want YOU to be involved with it. If I wasn't involved whatever, do what you want! But I think it is reasonable to be concerned with it when you have never experienced it before and someone wants you to participate.

Of course it is reasonable to have questions. My point is that these concerns should be brought to the person making the offer. Where you made a mistake here is to assume that "men who are into this stuff have a certain type of mentality" to quote your OP.

 

[ThreeEyedRaven]

I think it is fair to think that if a number of people replied with their experiences regarding this I would be able to deduce for myself what one might expect from someone wanting this type of thing. I know not everyone is the same.

 

[natethegreat]

Well

If it is something that interests you but you are not fully comfortable with, I wouldn't dismiss the idea all together.

First off, when presented with new experiences, it is expected to feel somewhat uncomfortable. Its about overcoming your nerves and trying something new.

Now in this instance, I would not be so worried about him being aggressive for the sole reason that he sounds like a submissive person if he is wanting to be your slave.

As the Domme, you get the control so to make sure you are comfortable you make sure you take things slow.

It sounds like a really fun experience, even if it ends at online chat.

 

[SubMissChievous]

I think it is fair to think that if a number of people replied with their experiences regarding this I would be able to deduce for myself what one might expect from someone wanting this type of thing. I know not everyone is the same.

I don't think you understand what I'm trying to explain to you so I'm going to try differently

What I'm getting at is that there isn't one cookie cutter way of doing "this type of thing". As you said yourself, not everyone is the same. And the same goes for relationship dynamics.

If someone told me they wanted to be my slave all it would indicate to me is that they wish for me to be in authority over them. That's about it. How this would all work is entirely up to the individuals involved.

Some people hand over authority to their dominants over every single aspects of their lives. Literally. Some are micro-managed to the point of having their dom decide what they will wear, what they will eat, when they can use the toilet, when they are to sleep, if they are allowed to have a job, their own money, social contacts, everything you can think of.

For some people it's more focused on specific things and less rigid if you will.

For some others, it's strictly bedroom kinky fuckery.

Some have a gazillion of rules, contracts (which are purely symbolic as they are not legally binding of course), protocols...

Some have very little rules, low to no protocols, and generally more informal.

Some have punishment dynamics. Some don't.

Some subs and slaves are masochists. Some are not.

Some are romantically involved with their doms. For some others, they are just fuck buddies, And some aren't sexual at all.

Some are into service. Some are mainly motivated from pleasing their partner.

Really... I could go on and on all day like this

So... what I'm getting at is that there are just as many ways of doing "this type of thing" as there are people involved. Don't get me wrong, it's perfectly fine to ask and if you have more specific questions users will try address them here. All I am saying is that when it comes to meeting one person it is best not to assume anything based on anecdotes you have heard or read and ask them as, no, you can't expect anything until you have heard it from them.

 

[Slaveboy90]

Thank you for your reply. But I think you are misunderstanding. I didn't say I was not interested in him. I said I would like to give the whole "slave" experience a try, I just don't want to live with him. I don't think I ever said I wasn't interested in him.

I am scared because I am new to this which is why I am on here. To be educated. Yes, it is odd to me. The exact definition of "odd" is "different from what is usual or expected. So yes, this is odd to me. Not bad, but it is certainly different. He is offering free living in a wealthy area to a stranger. I hope that answers your question.

You seem to have taken offense to me asking this question simply to be educated.

And btw, I was right on the "odd" part. I did a little digging online and he is posting this in multiple cities using multiple different names.

Being scared of something new is natural and at least you didn't turn down this offer immediately

Basically, what he wants is for you to be the authority over him. He may have some specific kinks that he needs to tell you about. The reason he is offering free living in a wealthy area is that he wants to find somebody who is a good match for him or who will understand him. Finding a mistress, or a female owner, is so damn hard Yes, he could charge you for rent but why would he when he badly wants a female owner?

I have been searching online for an owner who I could give myself to and let her rule my life. It is a big commitment which means I have to be choosy. And to me, her experience makes no sense. I am more intrigued by the dynamic in this kind of relation and I want her to respect me as a human being also. Like a friend who just happens to be like a superior in my life and who has the power to make me suffer if she wishes to, or console me, encourage me to pursue my dreams or just make me stay organised. I know it sounds like a mother when I put it like this, but it's hard to put the finger on what I exactly want or like.

Anyway, my advice if you are seriously consider this offer is to meet him in public first, as you would with anyone else. Use common sense and do some background checks on him. Also, try figure out your own limitation or what rules you want to set up. He is probably shy talking about this domination thing in person(because I am) which means you might be the one who has to bring it up. Ask about his kinks and how much of his life he wants you to control.

If you get along well with him, then just move in and start the relation slowly. Set up the rules, take your time to get used to the roles. Think of ways to punish him if he becomes demanding or impatient since you need to take your time. After all, you are the one in charge and he shall just obey you.

I hope my post helped you a bit and feel free to PM me with any questions.

 

[johncarter2595]

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