First and foremost If you desire to truly submit to a Dom You must first Know exactly what it is you want. BDSM is more then just sex. It is a lifestyle. It is about trust, understanding, honesty. You don't just submit to anyone. As a sub you have the control and power to say no. There are no consequences for telling a Dom No unless you have entered an agreement with a Dom and you have chosen them to be your Dom. No Dom has any control or power over you unless You let them.