Lets talk about dildos

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This seems a long overdue topic as dildos would probably be one of, if not the most, common sex toy around. So what is a dildo? Seems obvious but lets just go over the basics so we're all on the same page. A dildo is a sex toy to be inserted vaginally or anally, in most instances it is roughly phallic in shape and can be made from variety of materials.
Now one thing to keep in mind dildos can be vibrators, and obviously, vibrators can be dildos but this isn't always true. Many dildos are passive items, they have no mechanical moving parts, while others can have vibrating mechanisms of varying complexity built inside. There are also many types of vibrators that are not for internal use, the wand style units for instance.

Lets take a look at the various kinds of dildos available, and by this I don't just mean those you buy from sex stores.

For many their first dildo may well be something found around the house, hairbrush handles are very popular along with slim deodorant cans and many other such items. Some raid the kitchen which is rich source of items, the handles of all kinds of large spoons and so on are ideal. Also in the kitchen are things like bananas, carrots and cucumbers of course. All kinds of things can be repurposed as dildos if you're inventive enough.

But now lets say you're looking for your first real sex toy online, holy heck, the choice is staggering!

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So lets get one thing clear, most of these things in the photo are not really for general use. You're going to need years of experience as a sexual freak to even get close to using some of these things! Yes, you'll see them used in porn but these people are professionals. Just like elite athletes that can jump high, run fast or lift huge weights this kind of thing is not for the average person. Don't even attempt to start out at Olympic level.

In fact for your first dildo start small and cheap, you can always use it then move up but if you buy one too big you're not going to be able to play. If possible use something you know already fits as a gauge, girth is what matters here. Measure the circumference as close as possible and look for dildos in that kind of size range. Length is much less important, you don't need to fit it all in!

Next you'll need to consider what material. For a first toy a soft plastic/silicone is ideal but you may prefer a more rigid one, there is a huge choice in small, cheap plastic types so you'll have no problem. But maybe you've had a few and want something different? Both glass and metal are popular for their hard smooth surfaces however these materials are also much more expensive. Also be aware that unlike the plastic types they will hold their temperature for a while, so if its cold when you pick it up its gonna feel cold inside.

There is also the question of style, the choices for the smaller, entry level dildos is not that huge. Basically you have penis shaped, actually moulded to look like a real penis (kind of) or a more basic smooth phallic shape. But as you move up the range in price you'll find all kinds or weird and wonderful shapes including all kinds of fantasy animal and even dragon penises.

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The choice here boggles the mind and it seems every year the selection get bigger and bigger!
You can really have a lot of fun and indulge your most bizarre fantasies with some of these toys, of course a lot of these aren't cheap.

So now lets do some Kink Talking, what's your favorite dildo, or your first dildo? Any experiences you'd like to share about quality issues, material problems or just recommendations. Or just anything you've go to say on the topic. Lets talk about dildos!
 

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Thats a good report. Thank you. I'm seeing this as an expandable growing document over time . You might add...

Dildoes are also used orally. If not for direct pleasures, they are sometimes used to practice different techniques such a deep throat.

You briefly mention materials used. The different materials effect color, flexibility and texture. But heat capacity is a factor too.

There are also many ways the dildo is maneuvered. By hand, as a strap on about the waist, hips, face, or knee, fixed to furniture or wall, set on the end of a reciprocater. Dildos are sometimes mounted in chastity devices.

You mentioned about vibrating dildos. There are some that use moters to flex, wiggle and thrust. I suppose that someone could use a metallic dildo as a e-stim electrode.

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One thing that springs to mind is the smell. It may be due to low quality production or materials, but some toys have a strong plastic odour that persists even after washing.

Looking at that large collection in the first picture it seems impractical to have that many dildos, especially when so many appear to be similar shapes and sizes. The collection in the second picture look more interesting to me, but my eye is drawn to the colours more than the shapes.

I was made aware of some of the more "unique" types of dildos available several years ago when someone showed me the "freaks" collection. I can't remember which one he said I should get, but they were all creepy looking - zombie, Dracula, alien, Frankenstein etc... but they looked well made.
 
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One thing that springs to mind is the smell. It may be due to low quality production or materials, but some toys have a strong plastic odour that persists even after washing.
This is a great point! Not quite such a problem if it's only going in down there, but if as @Dave47630 pointed out you want to do some oral work you don't want a stinky dildo in your mouth.

And yes this is absolutely due to cheap plastics. Generally all silicone dildos should be pretty much odorless as will all the more expensive models which often use the Dragon Skin material.
Glass and metal don't have these same issues (obviously) but again cost more. As with many things, you do generally get what you pay for.
 
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I love my massage wand vibrator, but it's LOUD and I try to keep a few days in between uses because it's INTENSE!!

For dildos, my favorite is maybe six inches by two. It fits nice and snugly in my purse or in me 😳🥰 and is perfect for hidden public play 🤫😇

I'm still using my first anal plug. My husband did get me a jewelled steel one which is kind of fun (it gets very hot with prolonged wear), but my small-ish silicon one is the most "comfortable". I've experimented with other things back there (beads, chastity belt plugs and an inflatable plug) but for me, my smaller softer one is my favorite
 

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This is a great point! Not quite such a problem if it's only going in down there, but if as @Dave47630 pointed out you want to do some oral work you don't want a stinky dildo in your mouth.
It's not only odour. Some materials are difficult to sanitize (thus one should always use them with a condom) and some materials expose the person using it to dangerous ingerdients. So be sure to use dildos made of safe material.

My favorite part of using a dildo is that it fits so many different purposes. You can use them for plain pleasure, which is probably the most common use. One can also use it for frustration/denial games, especially vibrating ones. And they can also be used for humiliation, especially those who are gags as well. And of course they can serve as training objects, deep throat training has already been mentioned before.

Over all, dildos are quite versatile and fun at the same time. You need to be creative though.
 

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