Thanks for your suggestions. I am not sure if it's possible to get a mentor where i live. FYI i like to start with a very low pain and raise the bar slowly with an intention to cause no harm to the sub, however as u suggested i will do more research.Pain play can be very dangerous with someone who has little no experience. You should really do some research on it all and maybe get a mentor. Possibly hit up some local meets munches or dungeon 101 nights. Get the knowledge and experience in the risks and aftercare long before trying to scoop up a play partner.