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Rosali

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Heyy, i just have a weird question. I am not owned but hypothetically if i get owned and he wants to keep this relationship monogamous what do i do? I am not great with communication. Its not that i wanna go around fuck anyone i want. More like i want my Master to share me with his friends. Something like that. So i want my Master with me always. I will not ever go and have sex with someone if my Master is not there with me. All guys i talked to told me how i am not allowed to talk to other doms and all. No one expressed that they want to share me. So what do i do? Do i breakup or stay if i get into a monogamous relationship. Are there any men who even like to share their slave?
 
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Merlin

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Hi, any kind of relationship, and that is even more true for a dom/sub one, should start with a conversation about what all parties involved are interested in.
Seeing this is something that you feel as important you should say so when you talk with a potential owner.
A big part of finding a partner is looking for being compatible, and that means you need to talk with each other before you just jump into things.
Are there doms that are fine with sharing their sub or even enjoy it? Yes, but you will have to ask and look for that if it is important for you.
There will be a lot that don't like sharing, but there are some fine with it, some that enjoy it and some that even will want you to have no say in with who for example.

Keep in mind that things like that can be very different in reality than in fantasy though, so I would advice to go slow to start with and talk about after. But yes it is a thing some doms will be fine with.
 
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LadyGrace321

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. I am not owned but hypothetically if i get owned
Make a list of your wants and needs, and your dislikes and Nos
I am not great with communication.
When talking to someone about your list, go over one thing at a time. Don't get ran over by someone being impatient. Youll need to be comfortable enough with your chosen partner to be able to communicate. (Even if it seems like word vomit, you'll need to conve your thoughts)
 

Gengis

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Heyy, i just have a weird question. I am not owned but hypothetically if i get owned and he wants to keep this relationship monogamous what do i do? I am not great with communication. Its not that i wanna go around fuck anyone i want. More like i want my Master to share me with his friends. Something like that. So i want my Master with me always. I will not ever go and have sex with someone if my Master is not there with me. All guys i talked to told me how i am not allowed to talk to other doms and all. No one expressed that they want to share me. So what do i do? Do i breakup or stay if i get into a monogamous relationship. Are there any men who even like to share their slave?
I hope not being rude, but are there any chances that this is just a fantasy more than actual thing u really want to do?
Do you have experience with more than 1 men? I dont, but i know girls that have tried with 3 men, like an abuse fantasy scene, and she didnt like it. "Overwhelming" was the word that she used more while explaining the experience
The rule was she whouldnt refuse any of the regular sex activities so they could use her as a fuck toy....
Turned out she wanted something less harsh and more control over her own actions

Since your question is about something harder than what i said (or thats what i think u want to, correct me if im wrong) i whould start slow.

Also, not many dudes like sharing with other dude, not even mention friends, so what you looking for may be hard to find unless u specifically discard people based on that preference of yours.
And of course, u should be briging your kink to the table as fast as possible.

I mean.. you probably find a lot of people who whould share you with other men and use you, that is easy to find, but... building a dom sub relationship is, to my oppinion, beyond vanilla.


Ok... now that i read what Merlin said... ahhahahhaha redundace!!!!.
Ill not delete it, maybe its usefull for you as a survey
 

subzzzero

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So what you’re referring to. Isn’t just poly vs mono. Normally Poly could just consist of having other separate partners. What you’re seeking is specific and with it involving your Dom it’s going to be more like a hot wife situation. Or stag vixen thing. You’ll need to specify with your partner you’re seeking to have him participate. Finding guys is not hard but takes effort for proper vetting and such. Sti results. Limits. Boundaries. And some vanilla meets first.

The goal of using his current friends as the guys seems even more restrictive. Lot of it is fantasy and seems great until it’s in the room let’s go time. There are few guys who A. Want to see their friends fucking their girl. And B. Few friends who want to fuck their buddies gf with him and others. It’s a good fantasy but a lot of guys can’t even perform with other guys together or they just don’t want to.

Anyways good luck on the search. Communication, honesty, and proper vetting will get you there
 
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