So. I'm a pretty new sub. Found an awesome Dom online. We REALLY click and have been having tons of fun. He's a Switch. He is happy to continue as Dom, but I also know he would love some turn about.
The thing is I'm pretty new to all this...he's much more experienced and I'm having a hard time coming up with doable self-play tasks for him to do. And I kinda want to surprise him with new ideas...versus him feeding me his. I've come up with a couple of devious ideas after being pointed in directions. I can come up with ideas and tweak them once I have an idea...its just the initial ideas are hard for me. especially since I have to really think about what's doable to self as a man.
He's into CBT. Cock more than balls,(tying, weights, sounding etc). Not into any kind of feminization. He likes other humiliation though...This is particularly hard for me. He knows my triggers for humil talk...but other than not liking feminization, he hasn't really given me any parameters. for that.
He's such a great freaking Dom, I don't want to disappoint switching roles and Domming him!
The thing is I'm pretty new to all this...he's much more experienced and I'm having a hard time coming up with doable self-play tasks for him to do. And I kinda want to surprise him with new ideas...versus him feeding me his. I've come up with a couple of devious ideas after being pointed in directions. I can come up with ideas and tweak them once I have an idea...its just the initial ideas are hard for me. especially since I have to really think about what's doable to self as a man.
He's into CBT. Cock more than balls,(tying, weights, sounding etc). Not into any kind of feminization. He likes other humiliation though...This is particularly hard for me. He knows my triggers for humil talk...but other than not liking feminization, he hasn't really given me any parameters. for that.
He's such a great freaking Dom, I don't want to disappoint switching roles and Domming him!
I read your post and I just can't stop myself from wanting to help you hun! I myself am a switch and (kinda sorta) new to this. So what kinds of toys does he have for himself when he switches to sub? Plugs? Paddles? Sounding tools? A list would be great but just knowing 1 or 2 could help a lot. If he's experienced like you say he is, then I'm POSITIVE he knows what he would like from a possible Domme/switch. So the main goal is to gather all your confidence and reach out to your inner minx. Even if you don't know exactly what he wants, you have an IDEA and that can carry you a long way. (Hell I once knew a girl who loved it when I was sarcastic and cocky as hell so i, admittedly, spent weeks practicing smirking in a mirror, and finally I sucked it up and asked her out with an evil smirk on my face, demanding instead of asking and she melted, it was great.) You want to devise a plan of sorts where you confront him, maybe dressed real fucking sexy (if you're cyber and you're comfortable with it then send a pic of it to him), and you straight up ask him what he desires from a Domme. Once you know, you just say okay or something then leave him wanting, with orders not to cum, and maybe to also give himself an Indian rig burn (or something) on his dick every 10, 15, or 20 minutes until you're back. Leave him be for as long as you want (I suggest at least an hour and a half, unless he safewords or course) and in that time calm yourself and take the info he gave you and figure out a way to torture him. Also think of a punishment ahead of time, in case he tries to 'test the waters' by being disobedient. 
