Hey there! I started exploring prostate play a few years ago. I also started with just fingers, but bit the bullet and bought a toy. It worked great for the sensations, but did not make me orgasm. I went on to purchase several more toys, of different shapes, sizes, vibrating, non-vibrating, etc. What I eventually settled on that seems to do the trick was a strong vibrating plug. I can't remember the name of the one I got, but is strong and intense, and hits the perfect spot. As I continued to experiment with play, I gradually added smaller dildos while the plug was in, and pretty much fucked my ass with the dildo while the plug massaged my prostate. The orgasm was explosive and the amount of cum was ridiculous! More than I would produce during intercourse or regular masturbation. Keep trying, you'll get there! Happy Playing!!!