Slut Training

[Quietsubmissive]

Ok this might be a long post. I’m recently discovering that kinky really turns me on but I have a hard time letting go of control. I’m 23 and have been married for four years and want to become a better slut for my husband letting him do whatever he wants to me (anal, throat fucking, spanking, maybe pissing??, etc.) but you should know some backstory I come from a VERY religious home and have never drank or did drugs (except smoke tobacco sometimes) so I’m very very new to all of this. I have to kids and am a stay at home mom and love to stay on edge all day by doing discreet things like making myself not wear underwear or bra or putting my butt plug in also love nipple pain. I have a couple clips a homemade clit aspirator, and vibrating butt plug. I did order a bunch more toys and slutty clothes because I don’t have any or very many. But I guess I need someone to help me become his slave in a way and punish me with tasks and tell me what to wear. My husband doesn’t know I’m doing this. He loves anal and nipple play as well. He loves when I keep his cum in my mouth and rub it all over me but the taste and texture is hard for me but I want to get over that too. but doesn’t know how kinky I get at home alone. So I need to do this myself during the day, like I said I do like some public but has to be very discreet because I’m usually with my kids. I’m open to a lot except for scarring, and scat and family and friends. Little nervous to post this because how different it is from my whole life but I want to explore this side of me because as a mom I take care of a lot of other peoples needs. I am early pregnant and breastfeeding or nursing my husband as been something I also want to try but scared to even broach the subject with him. So any suggestions welcome. Thank you

 

[Quietsubmissive]

Oh and I also think a lot about my husband watching me play with a girl. And I have watched lesbian porn idk what this means exactly and I don’t know that he would (again religion) but just thought I’d share

 

[MasterMartin]

Wish you all the best to find what you are up for.
You can have a look at my profile and decide than if i am the right one for you.
But in general it will be hard to become a slave for a person that should not notice it...

 

[Quietsubmissive]

Wish you all the best to find what you are up for.
You can have a look at my profile and decide than if i am the right one for you.
But in general it will be hard to become a slave for a person that should not notice it...

Can you give me and example or what you would be doing? But yes I know he does like when I’m really dirty to him tho so some tasks I could do to him?

 

[imperius]

Hi, Quietsubmissive.

It's not uncommon for people from religious upbringings to feel shame or trepidation when trying to accept or develop their inner kink. I think that being honest with yourself is a great start, and it sounds like you are trying to walk down that road.

I think the first question might be what sort of dynamic is your ideal? You've made it clear that you wish to follow the noble path of servitude. But, what of your husband? Every slave craves a master, and it would seem that your husband should take on that role if you want fulfillment with him. Have you let him know that you would like to be controlled more fully?

But in general it will be hard to become a slave for a person that should not notice it...

I think @MasterMartin hits the nail on the head here. It sounds like you are passively training your husband to be your Master -- an interesting power reversal, but that's not your intention.

If you are intent upon finding a Dominant or Master here, perhaps it could be in conjunction with tasks that he would be keep to attempt? From your message, it sounds like you have a wide variety of kinks that need someone to address in a comprehensive manner. Like MasterMartin, I am also available to assist you. Feel free to PM me to discuss further.

Best of luck.

 

[Doctor Pervert]

Hello and welcome!

First up your's is actually a surprisingly common story, there are lots of kinky gals in vanilla marriages wanting to try and spice things up.
One of the first things you need to keep in mind is the most common objection raised by guys in response to this is that they "don't want to hurt you". Which is an understandable reaction especially given the confusion by many that bdsm is some form of abuse. The mantra of "safe, sane, consensual" is key to understanding what goes on in the bdsm kink world and the consent part is what you need to reinforce in any discussion, that you want this.

With that in mind I find that the best way to proceed (especially since he seems to enjoy 'dirty' play) is to work within what he's more comfortable with to build his confidence and trust. This can be simple stuff like slutty dress ups, super short skirts and fishnets with crop tops, or even things like kinky French maid outfits. This can start out as ways to present yourself for anal, surprise blowjobs and other straightforward sex. Gradually you can perhaps set up something to tease him into spanking you, scenes such as the "the maid spills peanuts on the floor" so needs to be punished. And so on.

With time he will become bolder, you could progress onto wearing a collar with your slut outfits. Add a tag with your name on it or buy one of the many "Slut" collars available online. With familiarity comes confidence, so then when he sees you dressed in one of your slut outfits he may start to "force" you into things. This is when you can introduce some bondage elements such as restraint cuffs. You can buy sets that attach to the bed and allow for wrist and ankle binding. Set up at the right time he's sure to take advantage of them.

Above all don't rush, and don't push anything if he seems reluctant. You want him to dominate so you have to give him time to feel comfortable with that role. If he gets the vibe that you are taking control of the action that will just confuse things. Set things up and let him take advantage. Be prepared for him to miss cues and you not get what you hoped for, learn from it and adapt to make it more obvious what you want to happen.

There are a bunch more tips and ideas but without getting more specifics from you it's hard to judge what you can use. It will take time but I think based on what you've said he will warm to the ideas and while he may not take on a full dominant role at least you can probably get into a lot more kinky stuff.

 

[MasterMartin]

Can you give me and example or what you would be doing? But yes I know he does like when I’m really dirty to him tho so some tasks I could do to him?

You can pm me

 

[chokedncollared]

Talk to your significant other. He may have interests you don't even know about that he's kept quiet about same as you have. Here is a quiz you can both take: https://sexionnaire.com/ and then it will only show you guys what you both have in common.

 

[Mandithedog]

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