why cant more subs be like bettyboop

[myusername1234]

i have been a dom for about three years now. ill admit in the begginning i was not a good dom at all, i didnt know what i was doing. but now i feel like i have some good experience under my belt. but heres the problem every girl who claims to be submissive on here or getdare argues almost any intermediete task you assign and then they dissapear. i wish i could a loyal obdient slave. hats off to bettyboop for being such an obdient slave, your master is lucky to have you. i wish i could find somebody like you.

 

[bettyboop61969]

Wow!

i have been a dom for about three years now. ill admit in the begginning i was not a good dom at all, i didnt know what i was doing. but now i feel like i have some good experience under my belt. but heres the problem every girl who claims to be submissive on here or getdare argues almost any intermediete task you assign and then they dissapear. i wish i could a loyal obdient slave. hats off to bettyboop for being such an obdient slave, your master is lucky to have you. i wish i could find somebody like you.

Wow! Are you referring to me? If so I am honored to have such a wonderful compliment. Happy hunting I'm sure the right sub will come along. Until you find her have fun with all the ones that attempt to please you as their Master.

 

[misbhavn]

It's probably because you're not as good a dom as you think you are and the tasks you assign are not sexually pleasurable for your subs.

 

[shadowice0823]

Theres lots of subs out there, but if you just take any that come your way majority of them will bail as they still trying to figure out if its for them, or came here on a whim and left just as quick.

 

[myusername1234]

Theres lots of subs out there, but if you just take any that come your way majority of them will bail as they still trying to figure out if its for them, or came here on a whim and left just as quick.

i think your right, but the problem is there are so many more male doms than there are female subs, it makes it hard to find a good one

 

[sexyladysub]

i think your right, but the problem is there are so many more male doms than there are female subs, it makes it hard to find a good one

From my own experience I came here partly by accident not really knowing what I wanted. I had always had submissive fantasies but had not gone beyond that. The master I am now with has taken it very slowly and I think if he hadn't I too would have run. It can be scary opening up to someone you do not know and revealing what you want so I would suggest you build up to tasks but start by getting to know your sub first.

 

[JustAMan]

It's probably because you're not as good a dom as you think you are and the tasks you assign are not sexually pleasurable for your subs.

Very true, while the true definition (arguably) of SM is pleasure for the top, at the end of the day I wouldn't obey someone unless I got pleasure from it. Ultimately you need to excite and pleasure your sub as much as yourself, its a game and its meant to be fun for both people. Im not saying the OP is bad at domming, but they may have a particular style that doesn't suit most people.

 

[bifem]

A lot of it is, unless the submissive is into random Doms, about getting to know what the sub is into. If your interests are similar, and if you're willing to go down the unfamiliar paths together. A D/s relationship is about trust, if nothing else. A sub is supposed to trust that their Dom will not lead them into anything that would be potentially beyond their boundaries, while still pushing limits. It's supposed to please the submissive to please their Dom.

"Listen to me now because I said so" isn't going to work for every submissive out there.

 

[XKor]

It's probably because you're not as good a dom as you think you are and the tasks you assign are not sexually pleasurable for your subs.

This is a common mistake of many 'subs', specially young subs.. Submission is not JUST about satisfying some sexual needs or experimenting new sensations, submission is about OBEDIENCE.. Of course, a good Dominant will try to keep his sub sexually satisfied and happy, but sometimes the submissive will have to perform tasks in her/his dislikes.. a good submissive can find pleasure in the obedience itself.. A Dominant is not a sexual therapist.. Happens that many subs doesn´t know the difference between being submissive and just playing some submissive games. Its NOT the same.

 

[shadowice0823]

From my own experience I came here partly by accident not really knowing what I wanted. I had always had submissive fantasies but had not gone beyond that. The master I am now with has taken it very slowly and I think if he hadn't I too would have run. It can be scary opening up to someone you do not know and revealing what you want so I would suggest you build up to tasks but start by getting to know your sub first.

Very true, I rarely ever play with new subs the first day or 2, instead we take the time to learn about each other what we like dislike, what we are expecting out of the d/s relationship, stuff that the other person can expect from us, then maybe let them have a simple task to complete for next time.

 

[onknees]

This is a common mistake of many 'subs', specially young subs.. Submission is not JUST about satisfying some sexual needs or experimenting new sensations, submission is about OBEDIENCE.. Of course, a good Dominant will try to keep his sub sexually satisfied and happy, but sometimes the submissive will have to perform tasks in her/his dislikes.. a good submissive can find pleasure in the obedience itself.. A Dominant is not a sexual therapist.. Happens that many subs doesn´t know the difference between being submissive and just playing some submissive games. Its NOT the same.

I was not daring to answer,thinking I was too extrem but your answer permit me to tell that previous people are wrong. Master position is not to provide sexual satisfaction for the slave. Why orgasm denial, why ruined orgasm in this case ? He is not really supposed to care about sexual satisfaction of his slave, he can if he want.
Caring about a slave is not providing him orgasms on demand. Of course the master has to adapt to the slave behaviour a little but mainly his role is to change this behaviour to make the slave he want. This process can take years until the slave/master couple find the good compromise.

 

[archie21]

there are subs who just don't know what they want.... and the suggestion that you may make lets say nipple pegging
the sub may say 'I have always wondered about having my nipples pegged so I tried it and it wasn't bad'
you say 'how long did you do it for?'
they say 'one minute'
and you say 'try for five minutes'
all you get is silence because what they didn't say was one minute was all i could stand because it hurt so much.... the idea that those pegs could be on for five minutes so they are in the pain for five minutes, scares them off. it's not your fault they just weren't ready
there are subs who know what they want but, they are careful about how much they tell too early and you need to take your time with... get a sub like this and he/she is worth the trouble.
and then there are those who know what they want have experience in being a slave and once they find a master they are comfortable with, will do anything...
as for the sex side, for me that is about what you both want.
However we generalise or not on here I believe that each master/sub relationship is different and as such should be treated this way. I have two female subs both like similar things but each has her own like as well. For instance one loves messy and wants to explore more whilst the other will do it but she isn't happy... So for one it is a reward and for the other it is a punishment.

 

[DomDaddy]

This is a common mistake of many 'subs', specially young subs.. Submission is not JUST about satisfying some sexual needs or experimenting new sensations, submission is about OBEDIENCE.. Of course, a good Dominant will try to keep his sub sexually satisfied and happy, but sometimes the submissive will have to perform tasks in her/his dislikes.. a good submissive can find pleasure in the obedience itself.. A Dominant is not a sexual therapist.. Happens that many subs doesn´t know the difference between being submissive and just playing some submissive games. Its NOT the same.

Bull Shit. BDSM is a two way game, and has to be MUTUALLY satisfying. At times, yes, a submissive may be called upon, with agreement on both sides, to cross lines and perform tasks they might not enjoy, and they may well take pleasure in the obedience and service. This does not mean that all submissives have to do so, or that anyone who will not do so is not submissive. As it so happens, a GOOD Dominant IS a kind of sexual therapist. Our job is to provide for the unique needs of our submissive. The most extreme three letters in BDSM would be TPE and the last word is EXCHANGE, meaning the sub can expect to get something back. We are not in the business of treating people as doormats - apart from our games when that is exactly what they want. SOME people need to learn the difference between fantasy and healthy reality and not make blanket statements of unadulterated crap which only really serve to prove how much they have to learn. You may have your soap-box back now.

 

[andrei]

A lot of it is, unless the submissive is into random Doms, about getting to know what the sub is into. If your interests are similar, and if you're willing to go down the unfamiliar paths together. A D/s relationship is about trust, if nothing else. A sub is supposed to trust that their Dom will not lead them into anything that would be potentially beyond their boundaries, while still pushing limits. It's supposed to please the submissive to please their Dom.

"Listen to me now because I said so" isn't going to work for every submissive out there.

I think this is the best answer to this topic title question. Trust is very hard to build in an ONLINE relationship so I am sure many people around here would love to offer their submissive side but still avoid doing it.