Agreed on the cold messaging approach. All my sub friends on fet keep an inbox of 99+ and have never even mentioned seeking a Dom. Just general convo about discussions. And dudes flooding their inbox.
Start off giving your likes, dislike, hard limits, toys avail, other restrictions.
Not much to go with as you left us with no info. So only half ass or cookie cutter replies will show up.
I posted my numbers in a prior post.
Short version. Millions more people so a more fish in the sea approach. But it has recently become filled with onlyfans advertising spam. So many “kinky” profiles sounding legit. On contact it’s “subscribe to my OF for more and to dominate me” 🤮🤮
The one...
Here’s some numbers. With regards to this site and online only dynamics.
I’ve been 8-10yrs on this site.
-zero local dynamics from here
-15ish dynamics lasting between 6 months to a year or more.
-30-50 short term play partners
More than half of both groups above came to me and initiated the...
There tons of guys who will pose as female when they see a female sub seeking female domme as well lol.
Shit remember the one “Dom” who got called out on stuff and then he makes a burner submissive account and replied to his own post as if he was a sub responding to his Dom ad. Classic 🤣
Same reason they will pay for it on cam sites like chaturbate, cam 4, OF. They like that part that allows them to direct or suggest the models action. That interaction piece. And as prior stated they think all subs will just bend cuz they have self labeled as “Dom”
I think this ratio at least cis male Dom to cis female sub is accurate among all communities online for sure.
Lots of those males are just horny and got here for porn and hopes of interactive porn. I think that’s why you see a more even ratio in the local groups in person. The vetting weeds...
Sorry I sort of left off the details to why I like it here. The core group who participates is almost like a telegram or discord bdsm group. But with the benefit of the chat history all laid out in an organized manner by subjects and running numerous tabs at once. It also seems to self filter...
My honest thought about the finding a play for irl vote is that I don’t think the numbers membership wise are here to be conducive to that. Even if you hit the same country state or province it’s usually too far off still. Nothing can be done to change that. I just think realistically there’s...
I have a longer version somewhere in the posts history I’ll look for later. But short version. Doing this with a stranger is not safe. But there is a way to the the effect @Dr Optokon is speaking of and it’s safe. Get your Dom to do it for you. Give him a range of dates and times that he can...