Boy jerked for me on camera and I recorded the whole thing

[Ncboy09]

Some boy on xxxposed posted that the first person that guessed the color of his underwear would get a private show from him on appear.in. I told him what to do and he did it all with no hesitation. Showed me his foreskin, rubbed the head of his cock, showed me his hole, and came for me and ate it. Little did he know I recorded the whole thing. He found out when I posted the screenshots on xxxposed right after. So fucking horny thinking about it, I wish someone would do this with me. Do you guys want to see the screenshots? Should I post the vid to xhamster and give you guys the link? What do you think?

 

[aurel]

You recorded him and posted it without consent, which is a criminal offence in most jurisdictions. The only thing you should do is take it down immediately, apologize to him and hope he doesn't take legal action, or you might end up in prison where you belong for being a horrible asshole.

 

[Ncboy09]

I'm probably wrong for not telling the full story, but when he found out about me having it, he was fine. He set some limits and I am respecting them. My bad for not telling the whole story. Not an asshole, not a criminal, just have a kink so fuck you for assuming.

 

[cb6000]

Finding out that he was "fine" after the fact in no way excuses your behavior.

 

[PrincessJessica]

Having "a kink" does not excuse playing without consent (even if they ended up being "fine" with it then it's a major break of trust). If exposure your kink it doesn't give you the right to expose people and then hope that exposure is also a turn on for them. You say he later set limits but I certainly wouldn't trust you.

(So I think it's going to be a no thanks to the screenshots and xhamster exposure).

 

[piesocial]

I think if you're playing to that extent on video over the internet to any stranger that contacts you then you're sort of opening yourself up for exposure. Imo, I think there was some implied if not explicit consent.

There were no ground rules set, there was care taken to at the very least check up on the status of the other person. All in all this looks like grey area at worst to me.

I think some of you guys are jumping to accusations without the whole story.

 

[max554]

I think the takeaway here is that the real assholes in this thread are Aurel, CB6000, and Male4you, who don’t seem to understand that this is fantasy RP, and are taking it all too seriously. Lighten up, guys. The boy is fine with it. This is all fantasy and everyone is safe and consenting. Quit being so stuck up.

 

[max554]

There’s a lot of kinkshaming going on this this thread and it’s not cute.

 

[aurel]

I think the takeaway here is that the real assholes in this thread are Aurel, CB6000, and Male4you, who don’t seem to understand that this is fantasy RP, and are taking it all too seriously. Lighten up, guys. The boy is fine with it. This is all fantasy and everyone is safe and consenting. Quit being so stuck up.

If a woman has the fantasy of having sex with three guys doesn't mean she enjoys being raped by three guys. That he was "fine" with it, after all, doesn't change the fact, that it was non-consenual to begin with.

Just because someone agreed to and enjoyed something in the past, does not in any way imply that they give up their right to not be okay with it. Those sleazy and rapey justifications simply prove that you have a lot to learn about consensual sexuality - especially when it comes to exposure which can potentially ruin people's lifes.

 

[PrincessJessica]

I think the takeaway here is that the real assholes in this thread are Aurel, CB6000, and Male4you, who don’t seem to understand that this is fantasy RP, and are taking it all too seriously. Lighten up, guys. The boy is fine with it. This is all fantasy and everyone is safe and consenting. Quit being so stuck up.

a) Unless I'm missing something this isn't a fantasy, as in a story, but did happen (and more may happen).

b) Consent after the fact isn't consent. Safe, sane and consensual is a mantra that should be kept to. The lack of consent isn't kinky its immoral at best. It's simply not kinkshaming to state that.

c) If not allowing morals to take a holiday just because blood is rushing away from brains makes me "stuck up" then great. Consequences in situations like this are real and don't care about your horniness levels at the time.

I'm assuming NcBoy agrees to some extent anyway as he's liked a previous post. If the person being exposed now feels safe and the exposure isn't going to increase (which was the question) then I'm happy and don't really want to repeatedly tell off NcBoy (but was a little shocked the position received a defense.)

 

[Doctor Pervert]

I think the takeaway here is that the real assholes in this thread are Aurel, CB6000, and Male4you, who don’t seem to understand that this is fantasy RP, and are taking it all too seriously. Lighten up, guys. The boy is fine with it. This is all fantasy and everyone is safe and consenting. Quit being so stuck up.

You obviously don't understand what roleplay is, this is not fantasy, at no point does this say anywhere it is fantasy.
It is exactly this kind of flippant attitude treating anything online as virtual and made up with no regard for the others involved that causes real damage to real people. It is also not consenting, obtaining consent after the fact does not diminish this kind of reckless behavior and trying to downplay the significance says a lot about how you regard others here.
The fact you insult @aurel, @cb6000 and @maleforyou when all they did was point out the stupidity of this also earns you a suspension, well done.

 

[max554]

I stand by everything I said. I know NCboy outside of Kinktalk and am in full possession of all the facts, which no one else on this thread was. You can ban me for disagreeing if you wish. It won’t change anything. People called him a criminal, which is utterly ridiculous. So I defended him. And I’d do it again. No regrets.

I take consent very seriously. Especially as someone into exposure. This is something that is not given the proper respect in the kink community. Yes, even here on Kinktalk. What NCboy did was engage in some kink role play. And people piled on him for it without knowing what actually happened, completely overreacting with their false accusations. There’s no place for that kind of kink-shaming here. At least there shouldn’t be. The fact that I was the one that got suspended shows a lot about where the priorities of the mods lie. It makes me question whether or not Kinktalk is the safe place it claims to be.

 

[Doctor Pervert]

I stand by everything I said. I know NCboy outside of Kinktalk and am in full possession of all the facts, which no one else on this thread was. You can ban me for disagreeing if you wish. It won’t change anything. People called him a criminal, which is utterly ridiculous. So I defended him. And I’d do it again. No regrets.

I take consent very seriously. Especially as someone into exposure. This is something that is not given the proper respect in the kink community. Yes, even here on Kinktalk. What NCboy did was engage in some kink role play. And people piled on him for it without knowing what actually happened, completely overreacting with their false accusations. There’s no place for that kind of kink-shaming here. At least there shouldn’t be. The fact that I was the one that got suspended shows a lot about where the priorities of the mods lie. It makes me question whether or not Kinktalk is the safe place it claims to be.

Again you come on with "role play", do you understand what that means? I don't think you do, it is when someone pretends to do something, its fantasy play.
Reread the OP and show me where it says it's role play. This was presented as a non-consensual recording of what was purported to be a private event with screenshots posted on a public site. In most jurisdiction this is a criminal act, fact.
The OP then backtracked when confronted about this and claimed the subject was "fine" after the fact which still doesn't diminish the seriousness of the original behavior and again no mention of it being fantasy role play.
You were banned for using offensive language in response to understandable outraged reactions.

I think the takeaway here is that the real assholes in this thread are Aurel, CB6000, and Male4you, who don’t seem to understand that this is fantasy RP, and are taking it all too seriously. Lighten up, guys. The boy is fine with it. This is all fantasy and everyone is safe and consenting. Quit being so stuck up.

This is not kink shaming, again I don't think you understand that concept either.
The original post was gloating about secretly recording and then posting screenshots of private activity, if you don't understand how wrong that is then I think that says volumes about how seriously you take consent.

 

[max554]

Again you come on with "role play", do you understand what that means? I don't think you do, it is when someone pretends to do something, its fantasy play.
Reread the OP and show me where it says it's role play. This was presented as a non-consensual recording of what was purported to be a private event with screenshots posted on a public site. In most jurisdiction this is a criminal act, fact.
The OP then backtracked when confronted about this and claimed the subject was "fine" after the fact which still doesn't diminish the seriousness of the original behavior and again no mention of it being fantasy role play.
You were banned for using offensive language in response to understandable outraged reactions.

This is not kink shaming, again I don't think you understand that concept either.
The original post was gloating about secretly recording and then posting screenshots of private activity, if you don't understand how wrong that is then I think that says volumes about how seriously you take consent.

I’m saying it didn’t actually happen how it was portrayed. This was all part of a fantasy, nothing more. The post was just talk to get people excited and get horny over. I know exactly what I’m talking about. Everything was consensual and mutually agreed upon by all parties and no ethical boundaries were actually violated. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

 

[Doctor Pervert]

I’m saying it didn’t actually happen how it was portrayed. This was all part of a fantasy, nothing more. The post was just talk to get people excited and get horny over. I know exactly what I’m talking about. Everything was consensual and mutually agreed upon by all parties and no ethical boundaries were actually violated. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

Ok champion, so how exactly are others supposed to know this is a fantasy? It doesn't say so, most of us don't play pretend we actually do this for real so when we see stupid things being said we call them out.

I will now educate you about consent, when you involve someone else in your games without informing them what is going on that is non-consensual.
If you and your "friend" think that creating the impression to the other members here that a serious non-consenting exposure has happened just to get yourselves horny then you can go elsewhere to do it!

This is one of the main problems here, all the kiddies playing pretend and thinking everyone else is doing the same.
Fucking grow up!!!

 

[Nottzlad]

For goodness sake, I don't see why OP doesn't understand what he's done wrong. Whenever you do exposure or indeed anything sexual of any kind you always obtain consent. There are no two ways about it whatsoever. If you don't have explicit consent, you simply don't proceed with whatever activity you're doing. This exposure on xhamster, as has been stated, in illegal is most jurisdictions and if this were in the UK, I could well see this coming under the description of revenge porn if construed in such a way. It's worth adding that this is not just about the law but about common decency as well and it's OP's behaviour which irritates me with others who are into exposure play and gives those of us who are into exposing guys a bad name. I should say here that I always obtain explicit permission from men, and I only expose men, before exposing them and anything that is sent to me before consent is given is treated in the strictest confidence and as being for my eyes only. I also make sure that men are fully aware that this could have a negative impact on their life.

I'll leave you with a tale about a kinky couple I know fairly well who live in my local area and a tale which shows the impact that exposure can have on one's 'real life'. Now this couple were rather kinky and one day the guy let his mistress expose his pics and info on tumblr. Fine he thought, he explicitly consented and she was happy to post them. A couple of months down the line he applied for a job at the company I work for. We ran a background check and found everything, his nudes, his info etc. We obviously couldn't give him the job because he was judged as potentially bringing the company into disrepute if we hired him. From speaking to him a little while later, it turns out that his pics and info were shared over 1000 times on tumblr and that he was struggling to get a job as a result of the exposure. Now he consented to the original act of exposure and you can argue that rights and wrongs of that, but he consented and so he's got to take the consequences now sadly. The poor guy whose video you want to upload to xhamster did not consent at the time and it's completely wrong of OP to seek to expose him in a way which could have detrimental and unforeseen consequences on his life, especially when he didn't even consent to you doing that.

EDIT: Sorry everyone for the rant, but it pisses me off when people do dick-ish things like this

 

[max554]

Again, this did not actually happen. Yes, someone was recorded. Yes they consented to it. It was all part of safe, consensual role play. I don’t know why that’s so hard to understand. I know this because OP told me about it outside this forum.

As I said before, I take consent in exposure extremely seriously. Consent was not violated here because the OP doesn’t accurately represent what happened for the sake of the role play.

Tbh, KinkTalk no longer feels like a safe place, but it’s not because of people like OP. It’s this mob mentality that can’t seem to distinguish between fantasy and reality on display in this thread.

 

[max554]

@max554
In some jurisdiction the initial post is enough to get this site down. It's foolish acts of dick- thinking that destroys the community. There is no kink-shaming here since people react based on actual rules. It's just the law.

The problem is the doxxers. They ruin exposure, which can be a fun kink if done safely and with proper consent. There are always people who ruin everything. OP isn’t it. Like I said, he was just engaging in some fantasy role play with another consenting adult and no one’s life has been ruined or affected as a result.

 

[max554]

Ok champion, so how exactly are others supposed to know this is a fantasy? It doesn't say so, most of us don't play pretend we actually do this for real so when we see stupid things being said we call them out.

I will now educate you about consent, when you involve someone else in your games without informing them what is going on that is non-consensual.
If you and your "friend" think that creating the impression to the other members here that a serious non-consenting exposure has happened just to get yourselves horny then you can go elsewhere to do it!

This is one of the main problems here, all the kiddies playing pretend and thinking everyone else is doing the same.
Fucking grow up!!!

Serious question - is Kinktalk not supposed to be a safe place to explore our kinky sides? Sure we all do this in real life. But you are in no way fostering a safe space with that attitude. You’re kink shaming. Some people can’t explore things in real life for what ever reason. I have fantasies about non-consensual exposure. It’s fun to talk about but I don’t want it to actually happen to me. Some people have rape fantasies - is that wrong if it doesn’t carry over into real life? There’s absolutely no excuse for rape or sexual assault, but are people who fantasize about being raped to be shamed for their kink?

They come here to explore these things. Since no consent was actually violated and no one was actually exposed, I don’t see why you continue to make a case out of this. Attitudes like yours are why people feel ashamed of being kinky. Such a shame, considering the safe, fun place KinkTalk once was. You’ve got doxxers posting ID pics in your media sections, real non-consensual exposures (not fantasy ones), and yet you turn a blind eye because...why? There are real victims out there. You’ll find none in this thread. I’m done here, there’s clearly no point in continuing this discussion. I just wish Kinktalk were as safe and tolerant as it advertises itself.

 

[zsadist]

wether or not the consent was broken or not is irrelevant.. you create the illusion that it was broken and then you are suprised by the reactions you get..
yes kinktalk is a safe haven.. and they are very fierce in protecting against non consensual.. and i aplaude it for them..
some of the other issues.. the op didnt even seem to realise what he was doing wrong.
then he started backtracking with consent after the fact.. .. this means the initial act was still without consent.. and in some countries illegal..
then be backtracked saying this was all a fantasy..
i for one am not sure if i believe him anymore.. since the story has changed to 3 diff versions by now..
had the op wished to avoid all this .. he should have added the word fiction to his original posts'title..
i think that would have saved a lot of trouble...
cause like i said.. i dont know what to believe anymore with all the stories.. and if he operated without consent once.. whos to say he wont again ( if the fiction part is just a smokescreen)

p.s. this is my personal opinion