First of, what is this post, well kind of a universal collection of lil trics and ideas for online play, please feel free to comment, sugest and improve.
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I'm only adding that due to shape and long handle screwdriver handles are quite good buttplug replacements that come in various sizes and are basicly impossible to get lost down there.
Trying to fit more classic BDSM concepts into online play gets interesting here are some ideas:
Spanking:
Using a object instead of the subs hand since its mentaly easyer to hit oneself with it I assume, a wooden spatula serves quite well, for more ideas see the thread linked above, to make it more interactive and less boring, dom can count down from a predefined number and sub just performs the spanking, this gives dom the chance to set the tempo, throw in some creative degredation betwene spanks aswell as count a it wrong/go into the negative numbers obviusly within limits.
This works over text, but voice/video works better because it gives more feedback to decide how much shold be applied.
Sensory deprivement
We can't really put a sub in a vac bed online, but we can partialy restrict them with rope in some more more less stimmulatin positions (using sextoys or not) and then with the help of a gag, a blindfold and earplugs/headphones with noicecanceling/music chosen by dom, we can get quite close to task them with sensory deprivement for 30minutes.
Instead of music and rope, the dom can give instructions over voice during a life session.
Breathplay
Dis one's difficult, dont even try to attempt over text, so voice/video is required.
So, how do we adapt breathplay online and still keep it 100% save?
Well, tell the lil subi simply to hold there breath, you can make it more realistic by having them hold there hand around there neck.
Just telling them to hold it, don't breathe.
But for how long, well under normal circumstances I cam go for about 30 seconds, an out of breath edging sub cam probably go for a quarter of that.
Start with short durations, 5 seconds, building up to perhaps 8 or 10, listen for subs breathing, be sensible here.
And dont tell them to hold there breath for 10seconds, count in your head while encouraging to keep it up, make them wonder how much longer they will hold of before release.
Orgasm Controll
Just saying "you don't get to cum" and imposing mandatory edges migth work for some, but thats not material for a session.
During a session, try fun stuff like counting sub down to orgasm, painfully slow or quick, 10, 9,8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 cum or suprisingly telling them to turn the vibrator off after 5, 4, 3 and enjoy the frustration that ensures, you can even combine this with previously mentioned sensory deprivement or online breathplay, let them guess whn the next orgasn will happen, stay unpredictable and keep them a moaning edged mess.
Temperature play with wax/ice can be done, but I did not find a fitting way to do this online.
Perhaps some other doms are willing to share online specific little tools and tricks.
Cheers.
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Trying to fit more classic BDSM concepts into online play gets interesting here are some ideas:
Spanking:
Using a object instead of the subs hand since its mentaly easyer to hit oneself with it I assume, a wooden spatula serves quite well, for more ideas see the thread linked above, to make it more interactive and less boring, dom can count down from a predefined number and sub just performs the spanking, this gives dom the chance to set the tempo, throw in some creative degredation betwene spanks aswell as count a it wrong/go into the negative numbers obviusly within limits.
This works over text, but voice/video works better because it gives more feedback to decide how much shold be applied.
Sensory deprivement
We can't really put a sub in a vac bed online, but we can partialy restrict them with rope in some more more less stimmulatin positions (using sextoys or not) and then with the help of a gag, a blindfold and earplugs/headphones with noicecanceling/music chosen by dom, we can get quite close to task them with sensory deprivement for 30minutes.
Instead of music and rope, the dom can give instructions over voice during a life session.
Breathplay
Dis one's difficult, dont even try to attempt over text, so voice/video is required.
So, how do we adapt breathplay online and still keep it 100% save?
Well, tell the lil subi simply to hold there breath, you can make it more realistic by having them hold there hand around there neck.
Just telling them to hold it, don't breathe.
But for how long, well under normal circumstances I cam go for about 30 seconds, an out of breath edging sub cam probably go for a quarter of that.
Start with short durations, 5 seconds, building up to perhaps 8 or 10, listen for subs breathing, be sensible here.
And dont tell them to hold there breath for 10seconds, count in your head while encouraging to keep it up, make them wonder how much longer they will hold of before release.
Orgasm Controll
Just saying "you don't get to cum" and imposing mandatory edges migth work for some, but thats not material for a session.
During a session, try fun stuff like counting sub down to orgasm, painfully slow or quick, 10, 9,8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 cum or suprisingly telling them to turn the vibrator off after 5, 4, 3 and enjoy the frustration that ensures, you can even combine this with previously mentioned sensory deprivement or online breathplay, let them guess whn the next orgasn will happen, stay unpredictable and keep them a moaning edged mess.
Temperature play with wax/ice can be done, but I did not find a fitting way to do this online.
Perhaps some other doms are willing to share online specific little tools and tricks.
Cheers.
