How do you find a boyfriend if your really really really ugly?
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Just curious, and you're welcome to ask for advice here, but you think dating sites are dangerous, you don't want a slave bf, soo...
why Kinktalk, for the wholesome advice?
why Kinktalk, for the wholesome advice?
I'm really with @SilverBlue this. What are you looking for from the deviants of kinktalk? What is that you're wanting?
If you're wanting a relationship online or in person. Then you'll need to open up and be more involved in either local community or the forums that you're trying to find a suitor.
As it stands now the only posting you have on KT is within this thread and you've been fairly vague in your responses
A munch is a causal get together for local people interested in BDSM/fetishes/kink at a public location without any BDSM/fetish/kink activities taking place. It allows for a safe environment to meet and get to know local people with similar interests to you.
Let's be direct, shall we?
You don't want a sub boyfriend, so you're looking for another type of relationship. That doesn't mean you're looking for a Dominant but let's start there.
Are you looking for a kinky relationship with a Master/Dominant partner or just a kinky relationship where you switch roles with your partner? You could set your Profile orientation to Submissive if you want to attract a Dominant, or Switch if you like to mix it up.
Make a list on your kink talk profile the things appeal to you, it doesn't have to be kinky, but it helps here
include things that are off limits as well. Once you've got a profile together, you're ready to start engaging with members that fit the type of relationship you're looking for. You can message people on here and try to start up a conversation. :O
Set up a chat account on something like snapchat or kik, without your real name, Being private and discreet is important for safety. Now you will be in a position to connect with people on kink talk and get chatty, it doesn't have to be kinky initially.
Now you mentioned being really ugly... OK. Well you can hide your face with blindfolds or masks in kink, so don't let your lack of confidence in your appearance hold you back.
I honestly can't think of anything more we can tell you. Good luck Charlie.
You don't want a sub boyfriend, so you're looking for another type of relationship. That doesn't mean you're looking for a Dominant but let's start there.
Are you looking for a kinky relationship with a Master/Dominant partner or just a kinky relationship where you switch roles with your partner? You could set your Profile orientation to Submissive if you want to attract a Dominant, or Switch if you like to mix it up.
Make a list on your kink talk profile the things appeal to you, it doesn't have to be kinky, but it helps here
include things that are off limits as well. Once you've got a profile together, you're ready to start engaging with members that fit the type of relationship you're looking for. You can message people on here and try to start up a conversation. :OSet up a chat account on something like snapchat or kik, without your real name, Being private and discreet is important for safety. Now you will be in a position to connect with people on kink talk and get chatty, it doesn't have to be kinky initially.
Now you mentioned being really ugly... OK. Well you can hide your face with blindfolds or masks in kink, so don't let your lack of confidence in your appearance hold you back.
I honestly can't think of anything more we can tell you. Good luck Charlie.
If you met the guy here, or on OKCupid, or in a bar, there is a not-zero choice that they are not safe. Life is not safe.
I played at a lot of funerals for guys who went to work on one bright, blue cloudless day in September, and they didn't come home. Walking across the street is unsafe. Mitagate the risk
I want a regular relationship not bdsm.Let's be direct, shall we?
You don't want a sub boyfriend, so you're looking for another type of relationship. That doesn't mean you're looking for a Dominant but let's start there.
Are you looking for a kinky relationship with a Master/Dominant partner or just a kinky relationship where you switch roles with your partner? You could set your Profile orientation to Submissive if you want to attract a Dominant, or Switch if you like to mix it up.
Make a list on your kink talk profile the things appeal to you, it doesn't have to be kinky, but it helps here
Set up a chat account on something like snapchat or kik, without your real name, Being private and discreet is important for safety. Now you will be in a position to connect with people on kink talk and get chatty, it doesn't have to be kinky initially.
Now you mentioned being really ugly... OK. Well you can hide your face with blindfolds or masks in kink, so don't let your lack of confidence in your appearance hold you back.
I honestly can't think of anything more we can tell you. Good luck Charlie.
Hi,
This site might not have been the best place for this question. Most people here will be very open to online relationships and are likely having constant conversations with regular people either on apps, dating sites or casual hookups from dating sites to forfil their kinky sides.
Therefore most answers will naturally sway towards that direction as that's the norm here.
If you're not wanting to try dating sites and not interested in a bdsm relationship.
You're really only left with face to face and meeting people. Since it sounds like you're conscious about the way you look, try and meet people in an environment that isn't on looks or first impressions.
I'd recommend joining some kind of club or activity that you find fun or interesting. Try to meet people who have a common interest that you will meet regularly. You might be able to find someone there, or those people might be able to introduce you to friends or acquaintances.
Being social is the key, the more things you do, the more people you meet the more chances you'll have at finding someone. You'll be more attractive when you're having fun and enjoying yourself. Concentrate on doing something you enjoy that you find fun / interesting first and you should find it'll happen naturally.
Good luck !
This site might not have been the best place for this question. Most people here will be very open to online relationships and are likely having constant conversations with regular people either on apps, dating sites or casual hookups from dating sites to forfil their kinky sides.
Therefore most answers will naturally sway towards that direction as that's the norm here.
If you're not wanting to try dating sites and not interested in a bdsm relationship.
You're really only left with face to face and meeting people. Since it sounds like you're conscious about the way you look, try and meet people in an environment that isn't on looks or first impressions.
I'd recommend joining some kind of club or activity that you find fun or interesting. Try to meet people who have a common interest that you will meet regularly. You might be able to find someone there, or those people might be able to introduce you to friends or acquaintances.
Being social is the key, the more things you do, the more people you meet the more chances you'll have at finding someone. You'll be more attractive when you're having fun and enjoying yourself. Concentrate on doing something you enjoy that you find fun / interesting first and you should find it'll happen naturally.
Good luck !
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She pretty much explained she’s not seeking anything kink related. So it’s probably not going to come from anyone on this site.Y
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