If my wife is pure Vanilla...

[andrei]

I have a kinky mind so I lurk around here. My wife doesn't get it, doesn't even want to watch 50 Shades of Gray ( I have no idea if the movie is inspiring, I watch BDSM porn and not this one). She likes the sex as it is.

Suggest me something to buy her from a sex shop. Maybe presents for her birthday which is approaching.
I need to push my relationship upper for more fun.

I tried some cheap vibrating rabbits and butterflies (small clit workers) before and she was not amazed. I used to tie her up but untied her after she reached her orgasm(s).

Any ideas? I would attract her into a bit of BDSM or any fetish, I just need the best approach, maybe the best toy to set her interest.

PS: I am not sure if I would buy her a big dildo she won't laugh at me if I don't have the right replica to present it. Or she would look suspicious and laugh I might have anything to use on myself. She is not stupid . I tried before telling her a new dildo would make a 69 fun but I didn't get far into it.

 

[StormyDungeons]

Ok here are some thoughts from a veteran.

For starters NEVER GO OVERBOARD TOWARDS BDSM WHEN YOU HAVE EROTIC ON THE TABLE.

Women tend towards erotic. 50 shades was not erotic it was trivial hack and people who are literary know this.

Work with her mind. Lure her into things like liasions. That sort of mindset gets a womans juices going.

Watch a chick flick.

I did this and at a certain point took off my pants and began masturbating to julia roberts.

Soon thereafter gal pal was down to underwear and we got it on. There are too many possibilities as to why that happened then to begin to begin to go into.

Now you say she did tying. Ok now do sex swing OR leg spreader restraint set.

Either can be had for around $20 on ebay if you actually look.

Try FLAVORED SEX LUBES OR SCENTED OILS.

BEGIN EATING YOGURT AND BLUEBERRIES.

Yogurt cleans your rectum so anal sex need not be messy while blueberries can jump start the libido.

Stop pushing for sex. This is a huge turnoff for women. Im not saying to stop wanting it, but that is known already.

Some of my best success stories involve boosting her esteem.

I was on the fone 1 night walking around the house oblivious my girl friend was there. She was sorta small breasted and a bit self conscious about it which inhibited her for anything being nude or sexual.

The thing is, they matched her well and even though im not a breast guy, they got me off.

So i was telling my friend about this on the fone and she began following me and eaves dropping. I was being honest and may as well been talking to a priest at confessional.

When the call ended = i was dragged into the bedroom and got laid. Her esteem was boosted which also super boosted her estrogen.

Aside from that, im hearing crazy good things regarding gingko biloba, bilberry, siberian gingseng, and cbd oil.

Look up and watch a vice channel series called = SLUTEVER.

Try to find the episode re cbd oil for women.

2 gals in frisco have made this a lifes passion and a rocket science. They have SCORES OF DEVOTED SUBJECTS WHO BUY. This stuff launches females into bliss down there and there are at least 50 versions each with varied results and levels of pop.

Get their catalog. Order a few. DONT TELL HER. JUST WAIT TIL SHES BOUND AGAIN THEN BLINDFOLD HER AND MASSAGE SOME INTO HER INTIMATE PLACES.

After she comes, unblindfold her but keep her restrained. Take off your pants and then began musing WHY SHE CAUGHT YOUR ATTENTION. WHY YOU WANTED HER. WHY YOU MARRIED HER. WHY SHE IS HOT. GIVE SPECIFIC DETAILS WITH DESCRIPTIONS.

COMPARE HER TO A SUPERFEM SHE BEARS EVEN THE SLIGHTEST RESEMBLENCE TOO. JEN ANISTON FOR EXAMPLE IF THATS POSSIBLE EVEN BY JUST SIMILAR SMILE, HAIR, BREASTS, LEGS, STATURE, ETC.....

THEN BEGAN TO MASTURBATE BUT NOT AS IF JUST BEATING OFF. MUSE OVER HER BODY. WITH YOUR FREE HAND RUB IT ACROSS HER LEGS, THIGHS, WHATEVER.

TAKE YOUR TIME AND THEN CUM ALL OVER HER.

THEN SIMPLY UNTIE HER HANDS, PULL ON YOUR PANTS AND REMARK = YES, I SIMPLY LOVE YOU.

THEN LEAVE.

This advice has sent rockets firing in multiple marriages and relationships i have councilled.

Once you get there, begin yo apply ALL THE VANILLA FOOD ITEMS i divulged earlier in this thread.

After those are exhausted when you bound her, roll her over and surprise her with an anal hook with neck choker AND THEN APPLY THE CBD OIL TO HER CLIT AND NIPPLES ONLY.

After that stage, she will be putty in your hands.

My only worry = ARE YOU REALLY READY AND UP FOR THIS? BECAUSE SUDDENLY YOU WILL BE HERE GO TO SOURCE FOR SEX AND FANTASY AND SIMPLY BE A BDSM ONLY GUY IS GOING TO LOOK AWFULLY VANILLA TO HER THEN.

Just sayin

 

[Doctor Pervert]

@andrei my man, you've been around here longer than anyone so you know as much as any of us really. When it comes to luring in the truly vanilla you know you're on an uphill battle that most likely will lead nowhere.

So for what it's worth here's a couple of ideas that I'll throw in the ring, the Womanizer or similar devices get rave reviews from everyone I know who has one. Being an external stim device for the clit there's no chance she'll confuse it with something you want to use for yourself. Who knows, if she likes the effect of this she may be more open to exploring other toys?
Second, how about sexy lingerie straying into fetish wear? Most women enjoy dressing up so some spicy play items might be another entry into something a bit deeper? Make sure the first items are not too outrageous and uncomfortable or she'll likely be put off entirely. The range of things is just huge so you may be overwhelmed with choice, maybe some of the gals here could make suggestions?

Good luck on your quest my friend!

 

[andrei]

@droptokon actually I also bought her sexy lingerie, first time in our honeymoon (she doesn't want any more while she put a little weight but I'm sure she won't refuse if I buy something new). Good idea, thanks. I played a little bondage to her before and she loved. Maybe I could try to gift her something more leatherish.

I have been for long here, yes, but I can't cure my shyness in particular situations.

@StormyDungeons thanks, incredible ideas but I'm not trying to be her dom (I can easily do that). She is not a sub kind, she prefers me to do most of the action and for start I want to be told what to do.

We both have the best sex when I am in control but I do want to try the opposite.

PS She moved the flogger in my drawer while the other toys are left in a storage room. I'm not sure if she wants to use on me or other way around. She said it hurts; I barely feel anything, it's a cheap toy I bought.