Males - How far do you push yourself for play?

[maleslut999]

When I find someone that is fun to play with I find myself willing to push my limits too far sometimes. I think part of this is due to the number of males vs females on these sites and I feel like I need to please the person I am playing with. Some of this involves doing things on cam that push my limits. Do any other men on here find themselves in a similar situation? I sometimes feel that the female I am playing with will just move on to the next guy quickly if I do not keep her entertained.

 

[NeedyBastard]

I push myself as far as I'm willing to go. Sometimes my gf is able to stretch this a bit, but as I've known her for many years and truly want to please her as best as I can, I'm OK with this.

I think pushing your limits is a good thing for a dom, and is something that brings any d/s relation to its full potential, but only if you're both OK with it.

So that's the question I think you need to ask yourself: are you OK with what you're doing? Because if you're only doing what you do out of fear of your dom leaving and are actually not OK with it deep inside, I think you'd better stop doing these things. A good dom will search for your limits, and might even stretch them a bit, but never more than you are willing to, and wouldn't enjoy it unless you do, too.

So if you are OK with what you're doing, and actively enjoy it, keep doing it, and enjoy. If not, it may be best to re-think your relationship. Fear rarely leads to healthy dynamics in a relation.

 

[subzzzero]

Because if you're only doing what you do out of fear of your dom leaving and are actually not OK with it deep inside, I think you'd better stop doing these things.

I am not a sub but this right here is spot on good advice

 

[Gengis]

I happen to do just the opposite, since most of my partners were not as experienced or kinky as i am, i just have to hold.
I do take it as limits, but when dealing with people taht is not at your same pace its hard.

As for pushing yourself farther... i whould say its a male related issue... Ive pushed my self in almost every aspect of life... some of them were worthy, some other werent.
I guess im one of those who learns from mistakes more than research.
Thats why i look for the "what could go wrong" first... and failing at atincipating once and again.

As a personal advice... from your words, i understand you lack of communication with taht person. So speak yourself out, make yourself clear.
Also think if the limits shes pushing are pushable, for you, or a real deal breakers.

There is a post on forum about sending pictures and keep your IRL safe, it should apply to webcam too.
Like... if u want to push taht limit, get a green screen and green balaklava or better, make one yourself (im a fan DIY) or.. if u have tattoos that u dont want to be seen or maybe exposed on the internet... cover them with something.

 

[maleslut999]

Thanks @Gengis there is some really great advice in here! Another person suggested wearing a mask too while on cam. I may just start doing this .