New to being a sub

[Itsnotme]

Heyy, about a week ago i was here aswell trying to find a dom
I found a person called Aussieddy or close to that. I did everything he asked me and it was great today he deleted me everywhere without saying anything, im scared that i will be published somewhere.

So to get to my point im trying to find someone to help me get over him and be my owner
You can text me here

 

[subzzzero]

Heyy, about a week ago i was here aswell trying to find a dom
I found a person called Aussieddy or close to that. I did everything he asked me and it was great today he deleted me everywhere without saying anything, im scared that i will be published somewhere.

So to get to my point im trying to find someone to help me get over him and be my owner
You can text me here

The only name close to that is this one here

AussieDdy

www.kinktalk.com

Same person?

 

[Itsnotme]

The only name close to that is this one here

AussieDdy

www.kinktalk.com

Same person?

Thats him yes

 

[Naughty nova]

Heyy, about a week ago i was here aswell trying to find a dom
I found a person called Aussieddy or close to that. I did everything he asked me and it was great today he deleted me everywhere without saying anything, im scared that i will be published somewhere.

So to get to my point im trying to find someone to help me get over him and be my owner
You can text me here

I am so sorry honey there are definitely some bad doms and some good ones. Best advise I can give talk a lot ask questions. If you arnt sure look at how long they have been here vrs how many posts they have made. Look at what they post if it's just one liners then be cautious. Feel free to ask me any questions you have there are lots of people who will help

 

[Itsnotme]

I am so sorry honey there are definitely some bad doms and some good ones. Best advise I can give talk a lot ask questions. If you arnt sure look at how long they have been here vrs how many posts they have made. Look at what they post if it's just one liners then be cautious. Feel free to ask me any questions you have there are lots of people who will help

Thank you, i have met 2 till now and the first one (Ausieddy) seemed like a good one. The only thing that was a bit weird was how he suddenly just removed me and the other one said that it depends howlong he will want me because it depends in the bdsm thingy.

But i have a question, what would be the best way to actually find someone and how can i trust him/her.
What kind of questions should i ask and what to avoid when finding someone

 

[Naughty nova]

Thank you, i have met 2 till now and the first one (Ausieddy) seemed like a good one. The only thing that was a bit weird was how he suddenly just removed me and the other one said that it depends howlong he will want me because it depends in the bdsm thingy.

But i have a question, what would be the best way to actually find someone and how can i trust him/her.
What kind of questions should i ask and what to avoid when finding someone

It's not so much specific questions. It's more about getting to know them. But definitely there like limits help. What you both expect out of it. Even different thing you want to try.

 

[Itsnotme]

Thank you once again, i will keep it in the back of my mind next time i find someone. If i would have anymore questions could i just ask them here?

 

[Naughty nova]

Find out if they are willing to grow and learn with you or if they are set in stone about the dynamic. One thing my Daddy dom has done for me is learned to be a Daddy. He was not one but he tried it and I believe he is enjoying it. I am also learning to like humiliation and degradation for him. A good dynamic is one that both benefits from. If you find a Dom that will not even try some of your kinks and only focus on there you have to decide if thays really the dynamic for you likewise if you are not willing to venture out and try anything that your dom is into ( that is not one of you hard limits ) then is it truly the right dynamic for them. I'm not saying you have to automatically do everything they want. My Daddy has slowly introduced things that I am starting to be ok with and even enjoy but that's also because he gave me the space to work into it. If you have more questions you can dm Me or ask here

 

[subzzzero]

If you’re doing pics vids and tasks with a “Dom” and you have not both spoken about vetting negotiations expectations etc. then you should be running in the opposite direction. Lots of dudes just want some easy play for the power trip and to get off.
Don’t give in day one. Make them
Earn your submission. Don’t rush into things and don’t let them make you think you’re not worth the effort.

 

[Itsnotme]

Seriously thank you for the advice, i will be more cautious next time and will ask more questions to know the person better and what they want. If any more questions come jumping into mind i will ask

 

[Itsnotme]

If you’re doing pics vids and tasks with a “Dom” and you have not both spoken about vetting negotiations expectations etc. then you should be running in the opposite direction. Lots of dudes just want some easy play for the power trip and to get off.
Don’t give in day one. Make them
Earn your submission. Don’t rush into things and don’t let them make you think you’re not worth the effort.

Thank you aswell, i will remember that i should avoid people who ask me to do stuff the second we start talking without a normal conversation.
Just one little more question if i am a sub how they need to earn my submission is what i dont understand how

 

[Naughty nova]

Thank you aswell, i will remember that i should avoid people who ask me to do stuff the second we start talking without a normal conversation.
Just one little more question if i am a sub how they need to earn my submission is what i dont understand how

For me it's just a feeling. If they can have normal conversations with you. And not just jump into the whole bow down you dirty whore. If they talk to you and actually want to know you limits and likes. I follow my gut if it does feel right I give it a try. I'm not sure how anyone else decides. Respect for me is huge if they can respect my limits and likes and will work within my parameters then I give them a chance. Now I'm not saying my limits and boundaries have been pushed or expanded because they have but when My Daddy and I tried pushing one of my limits we talked about it before and after I knew it was a part of him he was holding back because he knew it was a limit of mine he didn't preasure me about it so we talked and I trusted that if I didn't like it he would stop instantly and it would remain a limit. However coming from him I find I enjoy it. It's things like that that helped solidify that I made the right choice in submitting to him. Remember you can do test runs if it doesn't feel right then it's just not the one for you. Don't settle. I also personally like when I can go to my Dom and tell them different things I would like to try. And then let them decide if ,when. And how we do them. Remember communicating is key to any bdsm dynamic.

 

[Randy Magnum]

Also don't be afraid to say no.

If they ask you to a task (even if something you're comfortable with) every once in a while say no, as a test.
(Especially in early days)

If they discuss why you've said no, take it on board, move on and continue talking it's a good sign.

If you get spammed with abuse or ghosted, then you know where you stand and you can stop wasting your time on them.

 

[Itsnotme]

Woww, i thank you guys allot the way you guys give advise on what i should look for and what i should lookout for.
How to approach these things, i will definitely keep all the advice in the back of my head from now.

 

[Naughty nova]

Remember they may be the Dom but you hold the power. They can do nothing without your permission