I didnt read the hole original post, and i wont until im finished, cause i dont want to be dragged to someones oppinion., ill do it later.
I want to start saying that not trusting its deep into the animal nature. its a selfprotecting method, as that old guy from Jurassick Park, John Hammond said: "life finds its way" (at least in spanish)
In order to trust, u need to get rid of one of the strongest insticts an animal can have, self preservation.
Trust its an issue in every acpect of life. U can trust the green light at a traffic light (here there is a green humanoid walking like) then cross the road just to be crushed by a bus.
There are infinite ways of betrayal, from your own delusional believes (like... earth is flat) to the cheating in a couple.
Trust is based in many things, buts mostly it is based on how good you know that other being and how it behaves with you, how u feel when you are around it. its expressions, how much expossure of its weak spots u are allowed to witness.
With that said, lets get to the point: online trust. How can u trust anyone on the internet? Everybody could be a deciever!!!! Everyone lies!!!! and such...
The answer to that question is the same. Yout cant trust anyone for the shake of self presevation, but there are shades of trust, so lets discuss that.
As for me, trusting to a certain level is not an issue. You know? liers have short legs, as we use to say. The more they lie the more chances of screwing up its own lie they have.
On the internet the most dangerous ways of betrayal may be expossure and doxing together with harassment, so those are your main focuses in order to dont get that level of betrayal done to you.
What do i do in order to trust and gain trust? I do preach with my pray, dont lie and take the others words and actions as true and sincere but be cautious.
For those who are on the internet for a long time already, how many times u betrayed and got betrayed? The most of us will say 0, i want to believe most people are just... good trustworthy people. That doesnt mean ill expose my self LOL.
How you protect yourself from betrayal and still having good and trusty relationships with your dom or sub? i cant tell cause ive never done it on the internet, except for the time ive been around here. But i will say its basics online security, stick to that and it should be ok.
Keeping things on the forum should work, not sharing real life sensitive information, not clicking links you dont know, using an alternative account that its not mixed at all with your real online life.
Reciprocity use to be a good sing for trusting some1, the problem is whos the first one sharing? well... i suppose u will feel like to it when time comes, may be soon may be later or may never happen.
Summing up:
1. Protect yourself as much as needed
2. Set limits (that may be pushed or not)
3. Trust, but dont be a fool.
4. Be real, thats the best way for gaining trust (or to make a fool of yourself, like i think i did several times already on the forum)
I think i dont miss anything, please share your thoughts
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