WHAT IS A SWITCH!

LossingcontroleSub/Dom

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I've seen so many post on here where people don't know if there a switch. But try to be Dominant or submissive , because there Dom or Sub has asked them to reverse roles. I think it's important that if you wish to switch roles, it's your choice and no one else.
A switch is someone who like/enjoys switching role. Often from Submissiveness to Dominant. Or from Dominant to Submissiveness.
This should be talked about before play, so you's both know which role/mode you have agreed to.
Some switches like to switch while playing and thats fine as long as both party's know it could happen.
This is important because it could be damaging, confusing and harmful . Also if the dynamics change suddenly it could, harmful to the usual dynamics in the relationships.

1. don't let you Sub/Dom or Mistresses, decide for you. (if thats what your in to fine, but i found thats quite unusual)
2. Its your choice and no one else
3. If you think your a switch just remember you don't have to decide straight away .
Experimental to see what your into , life's a learning curve..right...and hell enjoy the ride...yummmmy
Remember you can change your mind, at any time.
Before your self discovery talk to your dom/sum, communication and trust is the key . Without it, it can be detrimental to your mental and emotional happiness.

Ps I hope this gives people a understanding, on what switch is. (Its a basic understanding but I didn't want it to be longwinded )

A little about me:
I always knew from 11 years old, that I likes to be in charge. I also knew when a girl as my school( one if my girlfriends) was very bossy, I would get butterflies in my stomach. When she bossed everyone about, she would see me smile at her and lick her teeth.

...things only got better....
...so I kind of knew early on, what I liked...
...I love being a switch...
But I know its not for everyone, but if you choose to experiment along the way..enjoy, enjoy and enjoy

If you anymore questions don't hesitate to ask x
 

subzzzero

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One thing to add is that one can be a switch and be what the community calls “leaning” to one side.

So a switch leaning dominant would mean you’re a switch but your dominant side is more prevalent.


It is also worth noting that some people are switch but only with specific other partners. Like I know ladies who will domme a female but only sub to a male for example.
 

LossingcontroleSub/Dom

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One thing to add is that one can be a switch and be what the community calls “leaning” to one side.

So a switch leaning dominant would mean you’re a switch but your dominant side is more prevalent.


It is also worth noting that some people are switch but only with specific other partners. Like I know ladies who will domme a female but only sub to a male for example.
Good point. I tried to make basic, I could write a thesis on the subject lol x
 
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Gengis

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Some switches like to switch while playing and thats fine as long as both party's know it could happen.
Thats what i call a brawling, actually that is the way i started... taking turns to try things on eachother.

Little to nothing to add, good reading material for starters and look into more in depth knowledge
 

Naughty nova

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I've seen so many post on here where people don't know if there a switch. But try to be Dominant or submissive , because there Dom or Sub has asked them to reverse roles. I think it's important that if you wish to switch roles, it's your choice and no one else.
A switch is someone who like/enjoys switching role. Often from Submissiveness to Dominant. Or from Dominant to Submissiveness.
This should be talked about before play, so you's both know which role/mode you have agreed to.
Some switches like to switch while playing and thats fine as long as both party's know it could happen.
This is important because it could be damaging, confusing and harmful . Also if the dynamics change suddenly it could, harmful to the usual dynamics in the relationships.

1. don't let you Sub/Dom or Mistresses, decide for you. (if thats what your in to fine, but i found thats quite unusual)
2. Its your choice and no one else
3. If you think your a switch just remember you don't have to decide straight away .
Experimental to see what your into , life's a learning curve..right...and hell enjoy the ride...yummmmy
Remember you can change your mind, at any time.
Before your self discovery talk to your dom/sum, communication and trust is the key . Without it, it can be detrimental to your mental and emotional happiness.

Ps I hope this gives people a understanding, on what switch is. (Its a basic understanding but I didn't want it to be longwinded )

A little about me:
I always knew from 11 years old, that I likes to be in charge. I also knew when a girl as my school( one if my girlfriends) was very bossy, I would get butterflies in my stomach. When she bossed everyone about, she would see me smile at her and lick her teeth.

...things only got better....
...so I kind of knew early on, what I liked...
...I love being a switch...
But I know its not for everyone, but if you choose to experiment along the way..enjoy, enjoy and enjoy

If you anymore questions don't hesitate to ask x
This 100% yes follow your heart and make sure it's right for you. Don't feel you have to switch not everyone is ment to switch. Or if you tried it and it just doesn't feel right there is no shame in not doing it. If your heart isn't in it it will not work for you or your partner. If you do enjoy it go for it find the right match and enjoy.
 

LossingcontroleSub/Dom

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This 100% yes follow your heart and make sure it's right for you. Don't feel you have to switch not everyone is ment to switch. Or if you tried it and it just doesn't feel right there is no shame in not doing it. If your heart isn't in it it will not work for you or your partner. If you do enjoy it go for it find the right match and enjoy.
...well said...
 
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