Yikes, toys you aren't allowed to use? Outrageous!! As for the "willing partner" is that in addition to your BF or something you would like him to morph into?
Yes, toys that my extremely vanilla BF won't even consider using.
Honestly, I want my BF to be my willing play partner. He is slowly warming up to things, but I am afraid he will never get to a level that satisfies my need/desire for wildness