When your switch flips on!! Need advice big time

[LossingcontroleSub/Dom]

I think your right concerning the contract , we had drafted one and he tried to take control in that situation as well.

I really really like my switch ..before this happening we were great together...

Ahhhh ..The contract needs to be finalised

But do i let what happened go and move on or what?

Omg...this make so mush sense...in a nutshell.

I've read your post a few times, to try and understand what went wrong. ...what I find wrong...or if my switch in sub mode switch on me mid role...if we had clear rules I place...I was the dom at tge time , maybe I played my role incorrectly...maybe...maybe not....
My heads done in I need to chill for a bit . Thanks again

 

[LossingcontroleSub/Dom]

Hope you don't get so stressed, and the situation you suffer from would soon be solved...and wonder if you'll accept chats from other doms then?

Yes private message me

 

[LossingcontroleSub/Dom]

dearisingcontrolesub/dom

I am so sorry that your sub is causing you such stress.
I know that in the home I serve, if I was, or attempted to be that disobedient, I would spend the evening nursing my soreness from the extreme bare bottom whipping I would have spent an entire day getting.
in my early days with my mistress and daddy, I had to write a lot of essays and thousands of lines on top of all of my regular chores and work inside and out of our house.
As a slave, I am forbidden to offer any advice to my superiors, but I would say only that your sub owes it to you to behave in a way that is better, and one that honors you.

SLITBL!

I like to think there is mutual respect, but I'm starting to wonder....thanks for your reply hun

 

[Tryingtolearn]

As someone who is still very new to the dynamics of.. well everything.. this sounds extremely stressful and I really hope you work it out for both of your sakes

 

[LossingcontroleSub/Dom]

As someone who is still very new to the dynamics of.. well everything.. this sounds extremely stressful and I really hope you work it out for both of your sakes

I don't think we will....

 

[Tryingtolearn]

I don't think we will....

I feel like if your head is at that stage already, you maybe already know the answer?

Sometimes it’s just not the right fit unfortunately

I’m seeing that quite quickly, you either work well with someone, or you don’t but I feel like you may already have decided..

 

[LossingcontroleSub/Dom]

I feel like if your head is at that stage already, you maybe already know the answer?

Sometimes it’s just not the right fit unfortunately

I’m seeing that quite quickly, you either work well with someone, or you don’t but I feel like you may already have decided..

I think your right..
When I'm in this head space I need to loss control and get my head right again...(this is a feeling I have when I feel things get out of MY control)
Maybe I need a Dom for a few hours...
It's finding the right one, if you know what I mean....

 

[Tryingtolearn]

I think your right..
When I'm in this head space I need to loss control and get my head right again...(this is a feeling I have when I feel things get out of MY control)
Maybe I need a Dom for a few hours...
It's finding the right one, if you know what I mean....

Absolutely.. again, you need someone that you work with..

The upside is, you’re in the right place to find what you need/want

If you want to chat to someone still learning, I’d be happy to take your mind off things for a while, maybe you can enlighten me on some things haha

 

[LossingcontroleSub/Dom]

So... I thought I'd post a update on:
" my sub switching me" while role playing, together.
So ...he got back to me after three days and couldn't stop apologising (repeatedly). So I called time out on role play and suggested, we go neutral. For a Frank and honest discussion between the, two of us.

He agreed....

So...the jest of the reason for the switch mid play, was basically, he was feeling vulnerable and had the urge to take control ( I don't mind switching mid play, if talked about before play time) This didn't happen and that was one of the reasons for confusion and feelings of not being respected (I explained this) ( more apologising..I was trying my best to be empathetic and understanding) ( but I was nearly at my breaking point with the apologising Ahhhh) But Hay, I swallow my nature to flog the slutty fucking sub.

We decided to finalise the contract with adding the following :
1. Switching and Bratting mid role needs to be talked about before play
2.Before , during and after care is paramount if switching is talked about before play.

I then suggest that we switch role for the night ie I was his Sub and he has all thecontrol.the Dom. In truth I suggested switching roles for a very good reason. I wanted to show him how a well trained sub should behave and stay focused on one role at a time.
This was agreed before play.

Let's just say he has no reason to say he lost control (after all I willingly give my control over, with my trust and confidence in , him as my Dom.)

It was one of the best play times we've had together Yummmmy haha ..it really was....back to what I was saying..ummm

I know it can be hard for switches to focus and not switch out of control.

My advice is if your really serious about you relationship, it's worth thing asking your play buddy (ha ha ha mad word). To set time apart to dedicate time to play in one role at a time. I'm reluctant to say get training because , I feel the fun may be lost somehow.

 

[Tryingtolearn]

Glad to hear you worked it out! Sounds like it was definitely the right move to talk about it properly

 

[LossingcontroleSub/Dom]

Absolutely.. again, you need someone that you work with..

The upside is, you’re in the right place to find what you need/want

If you want to chat to someone still learning, I’d be happy to take your mind off things for a while, maybe you can enlighten me on some things haha

Pm me

 

[LossingcontroleSub/Dom]

Glad to hear you worked it out! Sounds like it was definitely the right move to talk about it properly

Definitely...

 

[Naughty nova]

So... I thought I'd post a update on:
" my sub switching me" while role playing, together.
So ...he got back to me after three days and couldn't stop apologising (repeatedly). So I called time out on role play and suggested, we go neutral. For a Frank and honest discussion between the, two of us.

He agreed....

So...the jest of the reason for the switch mid play, was basically, he was feeling vulnerable and had the urge to take control ( I don't mind switching mid play, if talked about before play time) This didn't happen and that was one of the reasons for confusion and feelings of not being respected (I explained this) ( more apologising..I was trying my best to be empathetic and understanding) ( but I was nearly at my breaking point with the apologising Ahhhh) But Hay, I swallow my nature to flog the slutty fucking sub.

We decided to finalise the contract with adding the following :
1. Switching and Bratting mid role needs to be talked about before play
2.Before , during and after care is paramount if switching is talked about before play.

I then suggest that we switch role for the night ie I was his Sub and he has all thecontrol.the Dom. In truth I suggested switching roles for a very good reason. I wanted to show him how a well trained sub should behave and stay focused on one role at a time.
This was agreed before play.

Let's just say he has no reason to say he lost control (after all I willingly give my control over, with my trust and confidence in , him as my Dom.)

It was one of the best play times we've had together Yummmmy haha ..it really was....back to what I was saying..ummm

I know it can be hard for switches to focus and not switch out of control.

My advice is if your really serious about you relationship, it's worth thing asking your play buddy (ha ha ha mad word). To set time apart to dedicate time to play in one role at a time. I'm reluctant to say get training because , I feel the fun may be lost somehow.

Glad you talked and are working it out