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You’re welcome. I would also be careful of any of the people who are likely to be messaging you now saying they will train you and what not. A number of them are seeing that you are new and think they can use you.

I’m on the submissive side, but you could get different answers from each and every dom you talk to. There is no one way to be dominant or submissive. I would recommend doing your own research by reading discussions here and checking out fetlife. There are lots of groups on fetlife as well that...

I would start with talking to her clothes on about what you both want. Make sure you know what she wants in her dom and what you want in your sub. Find the common ground and work from there (this includes things like protocols, rules, and just what kinks to include). Look at other discussions...

Ask 100 different people you can get up to 100 different responses. For same age is going to matter. Others less so. For me I want a partner close in age. But if I’m older than them fine and if I’m younger than them fine. Being dominate isn’t based on an age. It’s based on the skills and...

One thing to note is having a dominant attitude in job settings or day to day life doesn’t automatically mean one is going to be dominant in a BDSM relationship. There are many people who are taking charge in their day to day life but then when they play they are submissive. Honestly an open...

I would suggest an open and honest conversation. Finding a list of some kinks/fetishes you are into and then sharing with him some of the things you like and talking about it. Let him know that if he needs time to think or look something’s up before he really knows how to respond is okay. Some...

Well I would start with a conversation. Clothes on no playing just ask her about what she is thinking. And then let her speak about how she is feeling. Ask hewhat you can do to help. And if she doesn’t know then you guys can work together on coming up with ideas. if she still wants to keep up...

Yes and no. It depends a bit on the sort of photo. If they are asking/demanding for nude/kinky photos more likely to be red flag. Some people do want to share photos to try and vet others. The main thing is that the majority of people who are decent will be willing to take it slow and meet in...

I would be sure to talk about similar interests depending on if you want just a play partner or a relationship that can be just kink or also vanilla ones. Asking what kinks they are into. Also if you keep them talking longer more of the red flag Doms will reveal themselves. If you refuse to send...

I would say start with showing her this site or sites like fetlife. Both have lots of good information and have places that focus on specific interests within bdsm. Let her start reading and maybe read with her about things. Okay it sounds like you might be a switch. After you have start to...

I would also suggest finding a list of fetishes and printing it out (well maybe only do that if you have your own printer otherwise copy and paste into google docs). Then start going through the list. Highlight green for things that you know you want to try, yellow for things that you aren’t...

I like taking the BDSM test in the same way I like taking which Hogwarts House Are you? It isn’t that the test is inaccurate more that the test is made from a couple of people’s views of all the kinks. I find it fun to see if what it says matches how I identify (this sounds weird but I can’t...

I always check profiles. I also tend to be less than polite if someone seems to not have read my profile. If you can't bother to read a profile why should I bother babying you? I feel like we are all adults so do the two seconds of reading before messaging someone.

I'm gunna be honest I like the name Pussy Parlor. But then again I did live in an apartment with three other women and we called our apartment Pussy Palace... So maybe I'm not the best judge of name 🤷‍♀️

Many people agree on unsolicited pics. So people reading this don't send unless they ask and don't pressure others to send you a pic. But if they are being super demanding you can always delete and block (at least I would assume any halfway decent site will let you block). I don't get a ton of...

I haven't done a ton of petplay. But for me I identified as a cat. Partly because I like cats, but also when thinking about it I fell into more cat attitudes. I'm not super energetic like a puppy nor am I so quickly loyal. I tend to take a little more time for trust and I won't just follow right...

Well it doesn't matter much to me unless you expect me to be licking or sucking near it. I don't want to feel like Im trying to floss with your body hair. So pubic hair yes trim it down so I will want to go down.

So far for me the site changes have been nice. But Im a little confused on how to send a message. When I set it up it seems all correct but when i hit send the site says I cant send one to that person. Im just not sure if I am putting the user name in wrong or if there is something new with that.