And im too unused to forums... i keep making mistakes on quotes and replys and.. what the helll i feel old xD
It's just part of the experience lmao, you get used to it.
Creeps and pushy people are a thing that ive seen for a long long time, i mean.. its like the dirtyness u get used to while walking down ur city
Thank god that for the most part i don't have to get used to dirtiness in my city. But yeah, that sounds similar. You just get used to it or avoid the places.
On the other hand, men have to face rejection and ghosting of real girls (or men, im straight so ill just say it my way) AND scammers and money chasers, if not some random "hacker" trying to infect your device.
Oh absolutely! And 9 times out of 10 they have to make the first move. While knowing the odds of it being real. That's one more reason as to why i think meeting people irl is so much better. There is no stress for both parties, about scamming or catfishing.
Sure, the person can still be other negative things, but at least you have less to worry about.
I would say that rejection and ghosting are just a general experience/ anxiety tho.
I think it happens platonically for more women and romantically for more man.
But those are just personal observations.
About being pushy and too damn straight, in my case... I speak too much, probably more than needed, and that alone could be taken as... needyness? (ewwwwwwww none wants to deal with it) or being a nuisance to deal with. I mean, it is exciting to talk kinky stuf with people, of course i keep talking xD Untill the smell of ghosting appears or until i realized ive talked too much.
It really depends on the person you are interacting with. There is always going to be people who like that part of you, you just need to find them.
But life also happens. Some people have lower energy, others just "don't vibe with you" it's all about finding ones you are compatible with. You can't really force a good thing to happen.
It's also about reading the room and that's almost impossible online (with new people). Everyone has mannerisms and oddities, a screen can't really "recreate that".
I dont know if u agree, but talking about pics request
But the second reasson i do it its to try and make sure i am talking with the owner fo the pictures
This is honestly something i wholeheartedly disagree with. You can never be sure. I know of people who used other people's nudes and pictures, i know of people who edited themselves so heavily that you can't even recognize them.
I like to talk about trust and it's importance in kink, and pictures is always a harder subject.
Nudes don't prove anything and if that's the pic's it starts with it can lead to distrust in a relationship.
A leak can ruin your life like it's nothing, adding your face to that just makes it worse. I've seen it happen to classmates to family friends.
And if you want something serious, risking so much for someone's quick carnal satisfaction seems silly to me.
Demanding/ expecting it seems even sillier.
I think it can be fine after a longer time in a relationship, but not in the beginning (that's just a personal opinion of course). To me, it makes it seem like the person values a jack off, more than the peace of mind of their partner/ the person they talk to.
We choose to trust people and their word's. Someone lying about their identity and wasting your time/ money, seems like less of a loss compared to having your life ruined, being unable to find a job, a partner, being treated horrible by family members, being plastered on sites without your permission etc. etc.
It depends on your country's culture too but personally i would never risk it. I know people who have done it and it worked well for them, but it's not my cup of tea (i also wouldn't recommend it).
Edit: @MercyHunter after reading some of ur posts, i can say i became a fan, i hope to get to talk wth you on a fresh / live thread cause i dont want to be reopening old threads, this one is enough xD
Thank you! I wouldn't say that this one is that old, but you are welcome to talk in the old ones and in a new one (when/ if i make one lmao)