That's why i absolutely never post or send pictures of that nature. I belive it to be far too risky with too little payoff.I think every sub I've had has had a bad experience with a previous Dom and wished they couldve unsent certain content.
I have big dreams and they aren't a price im willing to pay for an online "relationship".
It's still about trust and having it be broken, or boundaries being crossed. I'd say that it's just as bad when someone uses a traum you've had to get a reaction they want or to make you feel helpless and abuse their "power".
However I do have a sub friend who has been in some of those situations, becouse she was into sending pictures of herself. I think that there is no shame in that, but after some life changes she tries to pretend that it never happened (and i completely understand that, you never know how your partner will react). I think that people should be more honest tho.
I've never even tough about someone being "a fake" i suppose that's more so a problem for the people searching for women in thse communities. (And i have no experience with that, tho i have noticed people being skeptical of weather or not im "genuine"/ "real")
I think that instead of "moving to the next potential sub", doms should express their concerns and past situations as well. "Genuine" trust can be gifted to someone only when there is honesty and vulnerability from both sides!
That's why i don't like online "situationships" or relationships in general, it's a lot easier to run from the hard parts or to play pretend.
It's a lot harder to hide the truth, under anothers presence and gaze.