I am pretty new to this lifestyle.
Looking for advice on how this be a great salve for my Master!
Looking for advice on how this be a great salve for my Master!
Advice on how to be a good slave
- Thread starter Lulubell
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Good is subjective. If you have a master already he should be setting expectations. None of us can tell you what he wants or likes. All this should have been discussed in the negotiation stage. Likes dislikes limits expectations etc.
What I may like doenst mean it’s what every Dom would like.
Is he high protocol?
Does he have lots of prior experience?
What did you two discuss before entering in a dynamic?
Is he into slave poses?
Formal address ?
Acts of service? Like drink and cigar
Boot blacking
Is this dynamic online or in person ?
Beware of the “doms” here who reach out via pm to “help” you by trying to get you to do things for them.
Don't make him ask twice. If it's not one of your hard limits just do it without hesitation. If you hate it let him know thank him lots when being punished
There is actually no simple answer to that, as there is not one way, it is always a matter of being compatible. A "great slave" for one person may be a nighmare for the next.
My advie is to take your time and, the most important part, talk, a lot. Communication is the key to an relationship and that is doubel true about an D/s dnamic
My advie is to take your time and, the most important part, talk, a lot. Communication is the key to an relationship and that is doubel true about an D/s dnamic
This is one of the best statements about this subject.
Each dynamic is unique to people involved.
It is in person! My partner ! We have been dabbling a few years but he now wants to move into a more protocol heavy life
Sounds good. He’s going to be the one to ask then. It’s work as the master side of a high protocol master slave dynamic
My suggestion is when adding on rules do a few to begin. Let those run for week or a few and let it become habit before adding on more.
Starting off with a large list of rules all at once can be hard to achieve on both sides. Remember he’s responsible for enforcing and keeping up with them as well so he will also be busy.
Some high protocols ideas:
Formal address by title (yes master no master)
Slave poses
Leather/ toy care
Presenting toys/items during a session
Speech restriction
Collars
Clothing chose by him daily
Him deciding nail colors
Hair styles
Good discussion starters.
Giving advice, answering questions, and in general helping someone understand expectations in general, is a good thing.
How does a new person know what questions to ask if they don't know what they are getting into. Its not like I'm stealing your sub.
Of course. I understand really the point.
However to be Sub must First consent every task ( with Freedom to decide if Yes or not) than Just try to obey. Strong Will and very strong Need of ownership are the the topics. The quid.
Sooo then why did you make this comment?
I'm not being rude, I'm getting you to think about your actions.
I made It because a part the consent that Is obvious to be Sub OBEY Is the rule Number One to fix the Will and strenght of the Sub.
Are you trolling me? Stop Better do.it..
She's tooo new. You should know this. Giving that girl reading material to read shouldn't threaten your 'dominance'. Im getting too pissed off to continue talking to you in his thread. Wanna continue, bring it to me in private. You need to be put in your place.
We havent a contract Madame. ( Lady Dis Grace) Im only an ignorant worker of the darkest side of the kitchen. Im a servant without a Patron. Want own me? Which place? By your side? If you Need a servant i can consider It.
Saying "just obay" to a new person seams rather silly in best case and in worst case outright dangerous.
And to be honest even with the addition of consent nothing is mentioned to help with a Dom being abusive or dangerously manipulative, both very hard to spot for a beginner as it is... "just obay, once you consented" is really not a good idea on the mind of a new sub... As it misses a ton of "... after you checked the Dom being the right one for you and will not order things that are bad for you..." things you learn with time but are sure not easy to do as beginner.
Even with an expirienced sub it is not the best advice without adding things to it, but I can see a small point to it at least. But with a beginner... Bad advice
And to be honest even with the addition of consent nothing is mentioned to help with a Dom being abusive or dangerously manipulative, both very hard to spot for a beginner as it is... "just obay, once you consented" is really not a good idea on the mind of a new sub... As it misses a ton of "... after you checked the Dom being the right one for you and will not order things that are bad for you..." things you learn with time but are sure not easy to do as beginner.
Even with an expirienced sub it is not the best advice without adding things to it, but I can see a small point to it at least. But with a beginner... Bad advice
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