Hi, I'm trying to understand something, so if someone can enlighten me on this question of mine: If I am allowing my husband to pin me down and force orgasms on me without a fiber of me fighting back or disagreeing, then it not Consenting No-Consent right?
And sorry, English is my third language. And if you can give me tips on how to proceed with CNC with my husband as I not even sure I understand CNC correctly.
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My husband whom I'm 12 years married to and I absolutely trust him 100%, and we wouldn't be married this long if we not sexually compatible.
My husband, how do I say this, he likes sex based on his impulse, like spontaneous like out of no where he just stare and stare at me and pin me down the bed and fuck me till I throb all over and can't take the multiple vaginal orgasms anymore and BEG him to stop.
He can be a bit rough. Rough here I mean he will use his body force to pin me down the bed, one hand pin my wrist down, one hand pin my shoulder or has his hand on my neck (not in any way choke me or anything). He can be hard with pin my wrist and forceful with his body restraint me, but never in any way rough with my neck, he knows what to do.
And don't get me wrong, I enjoy it (as I said in my OP title, I fully consent it without a fiber of me fighting back), I'm not complaining as without him I wouldn't know the pleasure of multiple vaginal orgasms.
Overtime married to him, I developed two BDSM kinks (kinks can develope based on what you exposed to right?) I want him to tie my wrists with cloth to the bed (light bondage), and let try Consensual No-Consent. So I talk to him earlier today before he went to work, and his response was:
(I'm so shy, it took me like half a year to have the guts to talk to him about my kinks)
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He said he not into BDSM, and he just a normal sex person who likes to be dominant in bed want to please his wife.
He said he will NOT tie my hand to the bed, as he said that way it is the cloth/rope that restrain me, not him. What he wants is himself use his body to restraint me with his body, pin my wrist down, etc.. he said he does not want rope/cloth to restraint his wife, he can do it. If you get his dominant mindset?
And Consensual Non-Consent which I give him an article I printed out for him to read, lol. He said if that is what I will he will do it. (I guess he ok with it as it not effecting his insanely dominant way, he still be the one does 100% of the work in bed like his usual style).
I told him I don't want it (sex) to be a chore, he said it won't be as he always has been the one that does 100% of initiating sex, if he the one that initiaate 100% then it not a chore.
He said he has no problem of (go by his spontaneous/impulse) out of no where pin me against the wall, or push me down the bed, or pin me down the carpet, etc.. and fuck me, that is his styles/his ways. Just tell him to stop when my body can't take it anymore.
Or I can tell I can tell him how I want it and when I want it, my way.
He said he will fuck me when he comes home from work, so I have time to think while he at work, and tell him what I want when he comes home.
I told him I will think about it and tell him later (as I drop the subject at the time), as I was speechless at the time, whoa. my husband refused to light bondage, as he not want cloth to restraint me, but he wants his body to restrain me. And whoa. he has no problem of spontaneously pin me against the wall or the carpet and fuck me out of no where. I'm spechless.
He however give me a choice though, does it 'his' ways, or just tell him 'my way' how I want it.
I'm here still try to process his answers to me, and how to proceed with CNC with how he is and his styles. Perhaps CNC is just not gonna work for a normal man like him?
And sorry, English is my third language. And if you can give me tips on how to proceed with CNC with my husband as I not even sure I understand CNC correctly.
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My husband whom I'm 12 years married to and I absolutely trust him 100%, and we wouldn't be married this long if we not sexually compatible.
My husband, how do I say this, he likes sex based on his impulse, like spontaneous like out of no where he just stare and stare at me and pin me down the bed and fuck me till I throb all over and can't take the multiple vaginal orgasms anymore and BEG him to stop.
He can be a bit rough. Rough here I mean he will use his body force to pin me down the bed, one hand pin my wrist down, one hand pin my shoulder or has his hand on my neck (not in any way choke me or anything). He can be hard with pin my wrist and forceful with his body restraint me, but never in any way rough with my neck, he knows what to do.
And don't get me wrong, I enjoy it (as I said in my OP title, I fully consent it without a fiber of me fighting back), I'm not complaining as without him I wouldn't know the pleasure of multiple vaginal orgasms.
Overtime married to him, I developed two BDSM kinks (kinks can develope based on what you exposed to right?) I want him to tie my wrists with cloth to the bed (light bondage), and let try Consensual No-Consent. So I talk to him earlier today before he went to work, and his response was:
(I'm so shy, it took me like half a year to have the guts to talk to him about my kinks)
---------
He said he not into BDSM, and he just a normal sex person who likes to be dominant in bed want to please his wife.
He said he will NOT tie my hand to the bed, as he said that way it is the cloth/rope that restrain me, not him. What he wants is himself use his body to restraint me with his body, pin my wrist down, etc.. he said he does not want rope/cloth to restraint his wife, he can do it. If you get his dominant mindset?
And Consensual Non-Consent which I give him an article I printed out for him to read, lol. He said if that is what I will he will do it. (I guess he ok with it as it not effecting his insanely dominant way, he still be the one does 100% of the work in bed like his usual style).
I told him I don't want it (sex) to be a chore, he said it won't be as he always has been the one that does 100% of initiating sex, if he the one that initiaate 100% then it not a chore.
He said he has no problem of (go by his spontaneous/impulse) out of no where pin me against the wall, or push me down the bed, or pin me down the carpet, etc.. and fuck me, that is his styles/his ways. Just tell him to stop when my body can't take it anymore.
Or I can tell I can tell him how I want it and when I want it, my way.
He said he will fuck me when he comes home from work, so I have time to think while he at work, and tell him what I want when he comes home.
I told him I will think about it and tell him later (as I drop the subject at the time), as I was speechless at the time, whoa. my husband refused to light bondage, as he not want cloth to restraint me, but he wants his body to restrain me. And whoa. he has no problem of spontaneously pin me against the wall or the carpet and fuck me out of no where. I'm spechless.
He however give me a choice though, does it 'his' ways, or just tell him 'my way' how I want it.
I'm here still try to process his answers to me, and how to proceed with CNC with how he is and his styles. Perhaps CNC is just not gonna work for a normal man like him?
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