My D/s relationship has now come to an end. We are not on speaking terms.
The entanglement, ritualistic nature, and structure of D/s is so intricate how does one detangle those habits alone? Anytime I would normally update "my Sir" I am hit with a gut punch of emotion. Any tips on making this transition any easier?
Self collaring is one of the best approaches in my personal opinion.
So basically you’re going to continue with the self care and self improvement structure that was in place.
Replace your reporting to your sir with a self journal writing instead. This is where you’re accountable to for the time being as you heal with time. List your goals and your achievements. Hold your self to consequences when you come up short.
Nothing will heal the hurt but time. I have in the past helped close sub friends with a sort of oversight type foster Dom approach for better words but that doesn’t work for everyone. Also jumping into a new dynamic with all the random “helpers” that will likely be PM’img you isn’t the best approach. Your judgment to vetting people may b clouded by the need to serve and fill that gap.
You can also seek out groups with sub females who are essentially support in times of need like this. I’ve come across a few on fet before.
