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Exactly this. And I think a lot of the people who don’t like fet or have issue with fet is because they think this type of approach works there. Fet isn’t a dating/hook up site. There are groups there about that stuff sure, but at it’s core it’s discussion and event finding.

I do admit the fresh and pervey page and the kinky and popular pages of the explore tab tend to have a lot more porn pics and videos. But fet was made to get people learning and having a place they can find events/munches to attend. It wasn’t made to find a sub. Plus many subs are women and...

So for me I use Fet more how it was created to be used. Kinky Facebook. I’m not on fet to find a partner. I’ve joined groups that interest me and sometimes join in on discussions. I use it to read more information/experiences around kinks I’m interested in. And lately I have been branching out...

I’m not interested in playing a game. I just thought you shared an interesting site.

You might have better luck in the online play part of the site.

This is a fun idea to get some new poses. Gunna have to look at some of the poses and maybe try some.

I haven't really done the partner thing yet but I definitely like the idea of being called Good Girl. I think Merlin is right it sounds like the dom is proud of you and enjoys what you are doing.

Talk to her about having that type of relationship. Also her having an only fans doesn’t mean she wants to be someone’s sub. Let alone someone who pays for the content she makes. So use your adult words and talk to her about it if you really are interested in her.

I always suggest doing your own reading first on new kinks. There is a lot of good information to be found here by reading through the site. Basically use common sense for staying safe. But there are a lot of really nice and helpful people here willing to answer any questions that pop up (I'm...

So first welcome to the start of your kinky journey. With mentoring one thing to keep in mind is they should be similar to you. If I’m looking for a mentor I’m looking for a woman who is a sub. The idea of a mentor is someone who would have similar experience. You can talk to them about how...

You get to have say in the relationship. If you identify more as a kitten then you should be able to tell your dom that and they will try out having a kitten. Being a sub doesn’t me you never have any say. You still have your limits and you can have your own life.

Since you seem to want a mentor I would suggest finding someone who has a similar role and possibly gender as you. If I were to look I would want a woman who was submissive as my mentor. It says you are a switch so you might benefit from having two mentors as well. One sub and one dom. But...

Definitely keep researching and seeing what others have done as that can help you figure out ideas of what you might want to try.

Well first if you don’t like/want punishments you don’t need them. You can work on a reward only system and find ways to adjust goals to be able to get your rewards. It might be more of a “this is consistently one I am not fulfilling what I agreed to do why?” And figure out what needs to change...

One thing to be mindful of is a mentor is not someone who trains you or does any play with you. They are there to ask questions and share past experiences. If someone says “let me mentor you send nudes” they just assume they can get things from you because you are new. Personally I would do my...

I have taken the test a couple of times. And while it has seemed to be fairly accurate there is the fact that I am taking it using the definitions they used in the test. There is a lot more grey area in fetish/kink definitions than the test covers. So while I wouldn't say it's inaccurate I...

Yes always have a safe word ready. The safe word is for if it gets to too much. I haven’t done a lot of CNC myself, but I would definitely talk with my partner. If you feel like you could handle them doing anything and not setting limits then that’s up to you. Just make sure you trust them to...

I am more likely to trust a dom that has had something used on them before they use it with me. If a dom has been hit with a riding crop and study a bit then I would trust they know how to do it. if a dom says things like “I would never have a riding crop used on me because then people will...

Did you have a question? Or a little about yourself that might make someone contact you? Or did you just want to share that you are excited to find a sub?

You don’t need to be someone’s sub first to be a good dominant. But things like feeling what being tied up is like or having a flogger used on you isn’t a bad idea. As long as you are learning all you can about different dynamics and keeping communication open you will be good. The...